Guys, Is being a pushy a bad thing?

[Anonymous]

I love my friend to death, but she is the most unromantic, un sexual person I know. All of my friends say I’m a tad pushy when it comes to their love lives, and in a sense, yeah I am but it’s only because I’m a hopeless romantic mush at heart and I love watching the people in my life fall in love. I love it even more when I’m the reason their love story happened!

My friend and I are both on the apps. I’m more of the outgoing fun loving type who loves meeting people, enjoys going on dates, loves having sex (even if it’s only casual) and won’t waste time on apps (if I match with a guy and find him attractive, I message him and tell him that I am attracted to him, ask him out within the first couple of minutes and fuck him on or before the third date). I’ve had hookups who’ve turned into relationships, albeit they didn’t last more than a few months, but at least I got to have fun. My friend is the opposite. Quiet church going Bible thumping type who won’t fuck (even though she’s so beautiful she could get any guy to fuck her), prefers staying at home reading books to going out partying, has friends but won’t meet men she matches with unless they ask her, etc. what’s more confusing, I think she likes not having relationships or going on dates. I really think a good roll in the hay would do her a world of good and get her out of her shell, but of course she’s so Christian she won’t go for it. At her age though (I’m 40, she’s 39), I don’t think there’s any way she can lock down a man that easily without having sex. Guys, what do you think? I know many guys who would love to “corrupt” her.

I’m trying to convince her to put down her books and the Bible, let go of her “convictions” and reservations and be more open to having a sexual relationship. I feel that would really benefit her in the end, but she fights me. How do I do it?

Question closed to girls because girls will tell me that I’m wrong for forcing her out of her comfort zone.

[Anonymous]

Let people be themselves. You do you and leave other people to what matters to them. Some people don't want to be a 'cast off fuck' for some random hot guy who is only going to call for more of the same and doesn't hardly know the girl. Fair enough, you love that, have fun and don't feel its any kind of a problem (according to what you write). Definitely keep doing what you love and keep around the types of people you want about. Just don't interfer with others who want a long term partner who loves them and is going to dedicate themselve to them in marriage etc. You might not value it personally but respect they do.

[Danny_dan92]

Let her live her life

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of trying to play Cupid with a sprinkle of personal intervention. Let's dive into this with a love-drenched perspective! 😘 While your heart's in the place of roses and candlelit dinners, pushing your friend towards something she's clearly not comfortable with might not be the love potion you're hoping for. Everyone has their own pace in love and desire, and what works for one person might not for another. It's like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole; no matter how much you push, it's not going to fit without some serious damage.

Your friend sounds like she has her own beliefs and boundaries which, honestly, should be respected and cherished. Love isn't a one-size-fits-all situation. It's a bespoke suit that needs to be tailored to the individual. And let's not forget about consent, my love-struck friend; it's the VIP pass to any healthy relationship or sexual encounter.

Instead of trying to change her, why not celebrate the differences? Show her love comes in many forms and let her discover hers at her own pace. Who knows? She might surprise you! And remember, the best love stories are those where everyone feels respected and heard. 😍✨ Keep sprinkling that love around, but maybe ease up on the matchmaking throttle.