Why do some guys push and pull?

[Anonymous]

There’s a guy who I have liked for a while and he seemed to like me, but I noticed I was quite keen and he kind of backed off and then recently I’ve backed off because it seemed like he moved on and now he’s back like he missed me, what gives? Why do some guys push and pull?

[Miristheiss]

Men basically just want to do what WORKS.

If it works then they will do it.

We are usually pretty logical and results oriented. We can't live in our feelings 24/7.

[Asker]

So why the push and pull then?

[Miristheiss]

It often works.

[Anonymous]

He enjoys the attention, that’s all. He likes knowing that if he needs an ego boost, attention or whatever else then he’s got this starry eyed woman ready to give him all that.

[Asker]

Haha too true

[itsannalee]

He stills checking if you stupid enough to take him anymore or not.

[bowenw]

He may be seeing other women and comes back to you when he's not busy with them.

[Asker]

Interesting concept, could be totally true

[bowenw]

Can you check his phone to see who he messages and about what?

[Asker]

Ooh not really, but maybe I’ll try

[bowenw]

Sounds good.

[spartan55]

Yeah... great idea 🙄

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Yohenis]

Guys can sense if someone's worth the time. Must have got that vibes from you

[Asker]

Because he’s come back?

[Yohenis]

He initially pulled of because of the vibes some guys/girl do pull off because they are unsure if they are interested or not

[Asker]

Ah ok but now do you think he is interested?

[Yohenis]

Infatuation. Not attached.

[Asker]

Yeah on, why don’t say that?

[spartan55]

@asker
No guy in his right mind would say that... that's absurd.

[serious]

Well, this push-pull mindgame is used by women also.

[Fury_storm]

he thinks you're out of his league and he's gaming you

[Asker]

Why do you say out of his league? What makes you say that?

[Fury_storm]

what he's doing is a commonly known trick to get a girl to like him more

[Asker]

By him push and pulling?

[Asker]

You think he’s playing a tactic?

[Fury_storm]

yes. yes.

[Asker]

Ok thanks

[Fury_storm]

so what are you gonna do?

[Asker]

Probably try and talk to him

[Fury_storm]

ok just be careful cuz he might be a player

[spartan55]

Sounds like you are doing the exact same thing. Why do you do it?

[Shiprex]

He doesn't want to change the dynamic of the friendship you have.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you are both giving hot and cold signals to each other.

[Staximus]

Playing games or indecisive

[Asker]

Yeah frustrating