Why do guys play the push-and-pull game?

[queenkilldozer]

Why do guys pull you close one moment and then push you away the next? Why do they do that, what does it mean and how shouldIrespond?

[DonGiovannii]

Early on it could be a sad attempt at "game"... The push pull game is a natural dance that we do as humans. Not to imply that that should go on indefinitely lol

If it's over longer periods of time, we all have very transient desires and impulses. A new relationship is exciting, but when you're excited, you crave stability. The same with being in a stable relationship for too long, people crave excitement.

My advice on what to do would be to remember that you can't control it, all you can do is control your response.

If a guy is doing the push pull past the first date he's probably immature.
If it's over long periods of time it could show signs of infidelity or other deceit.

Relationships all take work, the longer we're together the more problems we see.

[DaveJord]

Probably because as a guy its hard to completely be open and trusting with a women, because they are so fickle. They love you one moment and act like they want nothing else but you, then next they seem as if they don't trust you or are unsure of. what they want...

Oh wait, you were talking about men... yeah I don't its called dating. Obviously there must be something about you he does trust or like completely.

[spartan55]

You aren't being very specific but many times it has nothing to do with you.

[queenkilldozer]

What I mean is one second they are Love bombing you and you're the only person they see then the next second they don't want anything to do with you and are cold and distant.

[spartan55]

Sometimes there are other things that get us preoccupied.

[Truthatanycost]

The same reason why there are no posts on this site drooling all over how that nice guy acted...

[In_Trance]

Everybody plays games. If this isn't your game, then don't respond

[MuizC]

Sometimes people use the push pull just to get a better connection at friendship and some are straight up platonic

[boobliker]

they have to test to see if you will stay?

[Anonymous]

I think girls do that more than guys.

[Iron_Man]

Immature people