I think virginity is a harmful concept, and you need to forget about it. There is value in not having sex, but you're going to be very hurt and disappointed if judge yourself by whether you have or haven't had sex before.
What I'm trying to say is: don't focus on this imaginary thing called virginity, and start thinking more about not having sex under sinful circumstances.
You're giving off a Christian vibe, and it's common for Christians to emphasize some sins over others. It just doesn't work that way. Everything that removes us from God is sinful. That includes lust, but as humans, we are simply not with God. We can accept forgiveness, but until we are with God, we are sinners.
Lust diverts our attention from God, but so does shame. Your overall mental and physical health is way more important than avoiding sex or masturbation. I'm not saying you should go fuck every willing guy you meet, but think about how any action affects your relationship with God. Also, since we are talking about something as powerful as lust, err on the side of caution, please.
All people sin don't dwell on mistakes you have already made just work to do what you feel is right in the future. I am a Christian male and impure thoughts about females and masturbation is one of my main struggles. Abstinence has positive effects and when you share that special moment with someone you are married to it will mean more not just a good feeling for a few moments
If you are religious think "God sees it all"
Stay away from whatever is triggering this temptation e. g flipping through his pics on facebook. Once you get this temptation you must distract yourself with anything like a TV show.
If you have not had sex everything is fine, masturbation is something everyone has done at some point just dont do it again.
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I'm assuming that you care and love for God. If you do this man for 6 years why did not go to a marriage? Then again that's not your question. If you believe it's wrong then don't do it it's that easy. You have to supplement it in your life if you want to get off perhaps you should go work out instead. The desires for those things that you think are sin put something good and its place. Grow yourself from it turn the desire into something more productive.
I'm not going to throw a religious sermon at you, but my belief is that no one can lose their purity, of it feels wrong than don't do it. If you can't stop than figure out why. Regardless, you have nothing to feel impure about. I always keep a piece of paper in my wallet that says "pure" so that I don't convince myself otherwise.
You look like you have been pure for a long time until you ate of the fruit of Eden. Repent and believe the good news, the Spirit of the Lord behold is suddenly upon you.
Plus go see a psychologist and tell them your problem. They might help you! But don't let them tell you that it's normal... it is not! Your pure state is normal. Since we are living in a perverted society, we can no longer differentiate between what's right and what's wrong. How r u gonna describe a society where pornstars are celebrities. Try becoming the person you were in the beginning of your life... I was like you, until some guy taught me how to masturbate and now I'm suffering like hell. Plus recently I was diagnosed with depression and OCD from excessively touching myself... Peace!
The use of religion to control female sexuality is a ancient means of ensuring certainty of paternity. There’s nothing wrong with masturbation or sex between consenting adults, especially if they’re in a relationship.
Look at it this way question asker.. are you actions hurting anyone? Of course not! There's nothing wrong with feeling good and you're not any less of a person for doing so.
I used to think like you but when I broke out of my prudish nature, a lot of doors opened for me. Casual sex even is perfectly fine, if anything you're doing a good deed by making someone feel good.
Will people call you a "slut?" Sure, but they're either jealous or brainwashed.
Touch yourself. Rubbing the outside does not take your virginity. Play with your nipples. I understand you were raised being taught about lustfull thoughts, I promise you nothing will happen if you do it.
It is not feeling about lustfulness. Don't be rude for yourself. I'm not saying that being virgin is not good but my point is that if you wanna loose it with right person then it's not wrong.
It's natural to masturbate. There's nothing wrong with it. Sometimes you need to do it to feel relief. You'll find that it will help stop your "shame" and "lustfulness".
Im sorry people have fucked you over so badly you think masterbating is wrong or sinful. The way to get over it is to masterbate amd have fun.
And this is the damage religion does. Sin isn't real. There's nothing to be ashamed of
What Wesley5577 said. Forget your brainwashing, do what you want.
impure through ideas or through action?
all you have to do is forget and move on
Nope
Have sex
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