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Please help me settle an argument with my boyfriend.

He never lets me play Beyonce in the car because he really dislikes her music, and I argued that the passenger is in charge of the stereo, but he says the driver is because they are the ones responsible for safety, thus they get to choose the music, and additionally that it's his car anyway so it's a moot point.

i had sex about twice within 12 hours about 14/15 days ago. my boyfriend came in me twice. im not sure if i am pregnant or not. i keep having mixed feelings, one second i think i am and the next i think im not. he keeps telling me i won't be pregnant because he smokes too much weed and might be infertile because of that.. im not sure if thats even possible. im not sure what to do. me and him are currently broken up and he keeps threatening to block me over the slightest things and he is very controlling and is always angry for usually no reason. im not sure how long to wait to take a pregnancy test either or which brand to get for the most efficiency. any advice would be appreciated.

My boyfriend and I have always gone to the gym together but within the past year, his “boys” have been tagging along as well. I didn’t mind it at first but now it’s getting exhausting… they talk so loud (even with noise cancelling headphones on I can still hear them), take up the entire gym, always taking pictures, take 10-15 mins breaks between sets, etc.

I mean I love them, they’re all super chill, but seeing them 4-5x a week at the gym where it used to be my place for “escape” is starting to burn me out. I’ve asked my boyfriend if we can just work out where it’s just the two of us but he said it’s a public gym and he can’t control when they’re gonna come (but then he always tells them the time and day of when he’s gonna be at the gym… he even invited more of his friends to work out together at the same gym, at the same time… it’s now a group of 6-7 boys + my boyfriend). I would love to hang out with them outside of the gym, but the gym should be a place to work out not to hang out right?

I offered to go to the gym separately so I can enjoy some quiet gym time but my boyfriend insisted that we go together. I’ve had stalkers at the gym in the past and my bf’s now a bit paranoid which is why we always go together. But it’s driving me nuts… I just want some peace and quiet… I feel bad for feeling this way, but I can’t stand it anymore :(

P. S. I’m also an introvert so hanging out with loud extroverted people 4-5x a week drains me lol

I dislike that my boyfriend appears to ONLY value men’s opinions. Anything I or any other woman says to him goes in one ear and out the other. But let a guy say the same thing and he's all ears and ready to take the advice.

Anyways, it made me question whose opinions I tend to value? I am very stubborn and not many people can get through to me. I can only think of one girl who has just really gotten through to me but I guess I notice that it’s mostly been guys, thus I value men’s opinions more.

I don't know if my guy simply values the male view more because he’s so insecure and intimidated by other men, which he says all the time. But I value the guys perspective because I want to know how to captivate, communicate with, and better understand the gender that I’m attracted to.

Some may call that a “pick me” but I don’t consider it the same thing. I feel pick me’s seek validation while I more so want advice and guidance. Who better to understand a guy I’m into than a guy himself?

If I wanted advice on how to improve my appearance, dress style or to better control my emotions, then I’d seek a woman’s advice since we better understand one another’s insecurities and reactions. I rarely ask other women for advice on guys though because so many take it as competition to go after that same guy. Its so weird. Girlcode always seems to go out the window.

Another thing could be that I grew up looking up to my grandpa more than anyone else. I also got along best with my male cousin and my uncle. My friends have always been 90% guys. Like, my mom held it down for a bit but her inconsistent behavior and broken promises really got to me. So I stopped looking up to her. Maybe she, my grandma and a bunch of flaky female friends and cousins ruined it for other women too.

Some men have wronged me but never as many men as women. I guess same can be said for my boyfriend since he feels more women have wronged him yet all I ever see these days is men treating him badly. #FeelFreeToList