My boyfriend is very playful, which I can be but he very quickly shifts from being funny to irritating.
He seems to enjoy tickling, poking and teasing me.
Now I get that it's maybe his way of showing affection but it also feels a little immature.
He's a year older than me, and had quite a few less relationships than I have.
I think I have a basic expectation of his behaviour for his age so I finding all this to be very teenage.
Especially when I react negatively and aggressively threaten him, (for example "you're not going to like if I snap at you!") he then turns it back on me by saying "I dare you to say that again whilst maintaining a straight face!"
There's a part of me listening to myself writing this and it's coming across as controlling with the potential to be abusive.
The reason why I'm more concerned about this is, I have a camera in my living room for my dog. But it's on 24/7 and tracks all motion. Because I didn't want to explain his behaviour with an essay message, I sent him the clip of him to watch where he was teasing me about the cake we were sharing. He kept pulling the cake away when I'd go to take a fork full and then laugh at me because I was enjoying it so much.
At one stage he even brought his fork up close to my face. He claims it was a joke but I snapped and put my fork back in his face "how do you like that when I do it to you! It's nit nice is it?"
He claims the video was a violation and he doesn't want to return to the space because its there constantly recording and how a previous ex has done this nit picking and pointing out behaviours of his.
The fact the video bothered him more and not his behaviour upset me and comes across as a lack of acceptance. He eventually said that he will stop irritating me. He went on to say he should have apologised when he realised he irked me. But I don't understand how he doesn't know where the limit is when I'm already telling him to stop and I don't like it!
He seems to enjoy tickling, poking and teasing me.
Now I get that it's maybe his way of showing affection but it also feels a little immature.
He's a year older than me, and had quite a few less relationships than I have.
I think I have a basic expectation of his behaviour for his age so I finding all this to be very teenage.
Especially when I react negatively and aggressively threaten him, (for example "you're not going to like if I snap at you!") he then turns it back on me by saying "I dare you to say that again whilst maintaining a straight face!"
There's a part of me listening to myself writing this and it's coming across as controlling with the potential to be abusive.
The reason why I'm more concerned about this is, I have a camera in my living room for my dog. But it's on 24/7 and tracks all motion. Because I didn't want to explain his behaviour with an essay message, I sent him the clip of him to watch where he was teasing me about the cake we were sharing. He kept pulling the cake away when I'd go to take a fork full and then laugh at me because I was enjoying it so much.
At one stage he even brought his fork up close to my face. He claims it was a joke but I snapped and put my fork back in his face "how do you like that when I do it to you! It's nit nice is it?"
He claims the video was a violation and he doesn't want to return to the space because its there constantly recording and how a previous ex has done this nit picking and pointing out behaviours of his.
The fact the video bothered him more and not his behaviour upset me and comes across as a lack of acceptance. He eventually said that he will stop irritating me. He went on to say he should have apologised when he realised he irked me. But I don't understand how he doesn't know where the limit is when I'm already telling him to stop and I don't like it!
