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I proposed to my now-wife on Friday, March 10, 2023 around 6:30 pm in the Bonefish Grill in Gainesville, Florida. Just like in the movies from the 1930's and 1940's, I got down on one knee the middle of that very crowded restaurant, make a few very brief comments, and then asked. . . while the restaurant manager (who knew my plan in advance) video'ed the event. I have no idea what I would have done if she had said "no," and it was my good fortune that she agreed to become Ms. OlderAndWiser.

Have you ever proposed and been rejected, or received a proposal and rejected it? Did the rejection ultimately get reversed, and the proposal was accepted?

Looking back on that experience, do you think the rejection was the right response? If so, why? Do you look back with regret and wish it had not ended with rejection?

For me it’s obvious; I’ve got one life. I would never settle. It really is both components. I know if I’m physically attracted to a girl at first glance, no personality overcomes a lack of physical attraction at all. Just as no amount of beauty overcomes crappy personality. Both are just as necessary. (Mind you everyone finds different types attractive so I don’t believe in leagues).

With a significant other there’s no in between for me, it’s enthusiastic yes or no thank you. I’m polite with giving and receiving rejection but I am resolute here. I just don’t understand people who don’t soneone because they don’t want to be alone. I’m scared of being alone sure-but settling scares me much more and I’m sure most healthy people would feel similar. Otherwise you’re dating just to have someone rather actually having a desire for a person.