Is it ok to keep a valuable (of 4.4 grands) once meant for a past ex girlfriend?

[NickJello86]

My current girlfriend and I have been dating for 18 months and I've kept a valuable that was once meant for a past ex girlfriend long ago.

Flashback to 2018:

I got rejected twice back then, the biggest rejection a woman can give. I made mistakes back then (mainly unreliable and breaking promises, being slow at things) and tried to get my ex girlfriend back. I tried again 4 months later and she declined again. There went 4.4 grands I'm not getting back, at least not the original value. I hated what pawn shops and sellers were offering, so much less. It's a heart-shaped blue sapphire and diamond ring; what she always wanted. No way I'm going to give it away for much less. So I've kept it all this time. It's untouched (intact) since she never worn it.

Present-day:

My current girlfriend doesn't know I have it hidden. I guess I might as well put it to use again if the time comes. I'll be saving money. I don't feel like going through the whole process of buying another ring.

[WindAtMyBack]

You are asking if you should reuse it and give it to your current girlfriend?

It makes sense logically and financially to reuse it. But this has nothing to do with logic or finance. Your girlfriend ain't gonna like it, not one bit. That ring is not HER ring, it's someone else's. You didn't buy it for HER, you bought it for SOMEONE ELSE.

You understand "sunk cost", right? You already spent the money on that ring. It's gone and completely irrelevant. It's not a good idea to reuse the ring. What you paid for it, or what you can sell it for, are irrelevant.

Don't count on keeping it hidden that you bought the ring for someone else. She's gonna find out and you'll get the cold treatment for the next year - and every year after that when she needs ammunition in an argument. She will never ever forget it.

Besides, do you want a relationship where deception is acceptable?

Tell her up front. Tell her you have this ring. Tell her the background. ASK her if she would like the ring. Be honest and ASK HER.

[NickJello86]

How would she find out if besides my ex girlfriend, only my parents and best friend know about the ring's history? They're as silent as a tomb.

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

Sentimental value doesn't need to be a factor.

An object is an object

[NickJello86]

yeah and it would still be new since it hasn't ever been worn.

[Anonymous]

Lol, that new chick ain't worth the hassle huh.

[NickJello86]

It's a headache having to go through the process of buying another new ring. If I return it, I'm going to receive much less than 4.4 grands. I'll never get back that remaining money.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol, as I said, that new chick ain't the hassle. She really ain't worth much to you.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, I'm all about keeping love alive and authentic 💖. Here's the thing: rings have memories and emotions attached. While it's practical to use it, it might not feel right if your current girlfriend knew its history. Love isn't about shortcuts—it's about meaningful gestures. Consider discussing your ideas and feelings with her. The right decision will strengthen your bond and ensure nothing puts a ring between you two. 😉💍 Love is a fresh start, not a rerun!

[jamesgoldman]

Does anyone else other than your ex know about the ring

[NickJello86]

Only my parents and best friend but they never tell others about private matters.

[jamesgoldman]

Would they potentially tell your new girlfriend if you were to reuse it

[NickJello86]

Nope. That's our secret. They're silent as a tomb.

[jamesgoldman]

I'd go ahead and use it then

[NickJello86]

Cool

[Nikki1989]

Why wouldn't it be?

[NickJello86]

yeah she won't find out. Only my parents and best friend know it but they're as silent as a tomb.