It’s not always rude but in your case it is rude.
If he hurt you, cheated on you or did something equally bad or worse you can burn it or shove it up he’s mouth won’t be rude.
But in this case it’s rude. He didn’t want it back but you could have handled it better. In a mature way.
You shared something together. You have no future so you don’t have to keep it but. But you can donate it to charity. Post it to him forcefully. Give it to a friend or a homeless person. Could sell it do anything.
But throwing it away means you disregard and are ashamed of your past. What you felt with him felt nothing. You don’t have to have a future with him but he cared about you enough to buy you those gifts.
You could have been a better person in this case.
No. Not all. First of all, they're gifts, that means they were given to you so you're free to do whatever you want with them, good or bad and second of all, I can't agree with some of the other responses that say it's immature to throw them away. Why exactly? Because somebody who obviously doesn't want to be part of your life anymore gave it to you? It's actually more immature to think you owe somebody like that to keep they're gifts instead if vice versa. Ultimately, it's up to you. If it helps you move on, more power to you. If you can keep them and everything still be fine, hey, that's fine too. Whatever you gotta do
Well, he should have taken it when you offered and were honest about what was going to happen to it. That's on him, not you.
However, I think people are fair in saying you were way too callous and hasty. We don't have the full story though, was he mean, was it a toxic relationship, were you mean, etc. When my ex broke our things and threw them away, he came off as petty to me.
That being said, I don't throw away things exes gave me, rather, I use them. It's my stuff. Unless it has the significance of an engagement ring or another piece of cherished jewelry, I will use it. I don't have any engagement rings laying around but I do have some old jewelry, and though I won't wear it when out with a new date, I will not pawn it or throw it away. Just me though
No, it's not rude. I think it's okay to throw it away if it helps you move on BUT , one thing to think about is that maybe one day (faaaar ahead in the future ) you might want to have those old things to look back to.. like telling your kids one day about your life and your first relationships etc. I don't know, but most people tend to get sentimental and it could be fun to take out those old boxes one day
So my advice would be to just collect all things and keep them somewhere like in the attic or something, so it will be out of sight/mind but still there
I think it depends on the gift. I understand wanting to throw away teddies or other smaller/inexpensive items that don’t mean a whole lot. But jewelry I’d probably keep personally, at least if it wasn’t engraved. A gift is a gift regardless of who you get it from. I’d probably keep most/all of the gifts my boyfriend has given me, if we were to break up. I’ve always been pretty good at separating the gift from the giver. I wouldn’t want it to go to waste if I still found it useful.
But I understand if it hurts to keep them. To each their own.
Personally once a gift is given it's yours so I think it's silly to throw it away after breaking up.
I also think it's weird that you'd tell him you threw everything away. Why should he know/care what you do with your personal items? It sounds like you're just trying to be vindictive.
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I said yes. Its logical. Its not a bad thing. But its usually childish when it is done. My ex did it in front of me like she was throwing a 5 year old tantrum.
I simply told her that I made the gift for her because I love her. I told her that it took me days to make. She made some comment that it was cheap and suggested she wanted an expensive gift instead. I told her that I made her the gift because it was all I could afford. I told her it meant a lot to make her the gifts. She just got silent.
I dont throw away any gifts. Im appreciative of whos come and gone in my life. I take memories with me both happy and sad. Im stronger for it. And wiser.
Sorry but for me throwing it away is not the right call U know U just both broke up and it's normal to feel mad , sad... blah , blah. but still things U got had a lot of effort from him , yeah i know U like to feel free from him but not like that U can give this things to kids , girls and boys but i guess U may not like to see this things with someone else cuse U like them to be your only ? and he told U to keep it cuse he knows those things meant for U and no body else. anyway ex sometimes become a really good friend in the future. i hope U got what i mean.
He threw your heart and smashed it even though it might've hurt you for a week or longer. So no, it isn't rude. You clearly told him you were gonna do it, so not your fault, honey. But if you get back with him later, that might come up as a reason for fights. lol
My ex broke up with me 2 months ago and I said "you broke up with me why should I be reminded of something you lost?" And i put it in his box when he collected his things. He binned them. I was upset inside... but he kept our engagement rings.
So yeah I kinda did what you did lol.
I don’t think so, no. I wouldn’t have thrown it out - I would sell the jewelry and give the teddy bears to a family shelter or something, but there’s no reason to keep it if you don’t want it anymore. I burned the letters my ex fiancé wrote me. I would have burned a whole lot more if it wouldn’t have potentially set the house on fire.
I mean technically theyre your items and you can do whatever you want with your property. But I would probably keep the useful gifts or donate any stuffed animals to children and donate or sell the jewelry if i didn't like the emotions attached to it.
If it's good jewelry, you know there are sites where you can sell those right?
Or at least donate. I get it, you feel hurt, you want to get rid of the past (I've been there) but if it's useful for somebody else, or I could get good money (and get me a nice pair of heels) why not?
It depends on what gift it is in my opinion. If it's like a lamp or a pan that you use it would be stupid to throw it away. You should throw away teddybears etc. that has no "real" value other than a gift from a loved one. Don't try to give it back because they don't want it. It was meant for you and if you don't want it you should get rid of it yourself.
Its not rude however I dont see why you'd want to! Sure cards and stuff like that, its a little rude I think but it depends on the reason why I guess. I personally wouldn't throw away the material items because I still have use for them, just because he gave them to me doesn't "tarnish" them.
you did it WAY too soon. you gotta let the situation cool down first and then do something drastic like that. it probably felt like a stab in the heart. I throw away gifts from my exes only when im sure I won't see or hear her ever again. which is typically about 2 or 3 weeks
No he's dumb for not taking the gifts back.
Maybe he thought you wouldn't actually throw them away, especially since you guys just broke up. I would of just threw them away and not have said nothing.
At least you actually told him and gave him a chance to save his money. Thats his fault if he's mad. There makes no sense to keep the gifts if y'all are really done.
Quite childish to throw away your gifts, it's not like the guy murdered your family, you broke up, get over it.
He didn't want any of his gifts back obviously since it's not his anymore but he gave them to you as a genuine gift when he was with you and all it took you was one day after the breakup to throw them away.
It depends on the gift I think. One of my exes kept a plastic rose that reminded them of their ex, and I was pretty pissed about that. Another ex, kept a play station they got from their ex and I had no problem with it 😂
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I personally would throw it away, I wouldn't want any reminders of the relationship. I also wouldn't give the stuff back to him because it's not like an engagment ring you know? that's just me. I would of waited a bit before throwing everything out.
You're perfectly entitled to do what you want with said items; if you want to throw them out, it's perfectly your right to do so. If you wanted to keep them, then that's your choice, too. What he thinks matters none at all.
That was really childish, as it sounds like they are good presents. Sure of they are crap, dump them, but he still spent money on you
I couldn't give less of a shit; they're my ex, and it's my stuff now, so I'll do what I want with it.
I wouldn't likely get rid of anything useful or that I liked but if it was super cheesy and meaningful I would because... that's awkward.
I think its RUDE to offer to return them! And stupid to throw thwm out. Donate what you can nect time. 5.00 to good will goes a long way. Selfishly tossing nice items says more about you...
Depends on the circumstance but in my opinion I think its fine as it could help in the healing/moving forward process and plus when you start a new relationship your partner doesn't want to see all your ex things
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