Yea thrown in the closet somewhere. I just open the door and throw it in. haven't actually gone in there in 10 years aside from throwing stuff in. But ik my ring i wore everyday with one ex, i threw it across the room and its been layin in the same spot for 4 years
I have a few flannels but those are mine now
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Some, like photo albums and pictures from going out, road trips, concert ticket stubs and what not that are packed into a box, an external hard drive and stuffed back there.
On my end it's mostly because my memory is so awful. I've had few relationships, but without writing about them, having pictures, or mementos, I'll forget they ever happened after a few years, which has its pros and cons.
I hooked up with an ex once and completely forgot that she was, you know, an ex. She was thrilled about that lol.
I saved several of the letters I exchanged with girls I dated when I was much younger. I occasionally take a look at them... pleasant memories. Yes, we did write letters before the Internet existed. 😏
I tend to hold onto everything and have a hard time discarding things. It's real work for me, and I'm not just talking "stuff" I'm talking anything. When I have a sprouted potato on the counter, I want to plant it instead of throw it out. A plastic cup can be reused, a twig is compost, the used tea bag goes to the compost pile... it's valuable. I don't like throwing people away either, I don't like cancel culture.. I like discipline and change. Maybe I have attachmnt/detatchment issues, not clear. In general though, I learned that trees prune themselves, cats remove their old fur to make space for the new. So, I learned to throw those things out and need to do more of it. I want to hold on, but it does me no good. What I keep are memories and lessons learned in life and what I can take forward the good.
Sure, I’ve got old pictures, letters, etc. I hardly ever look at them, but I’ll stumble across them every 10 years or so, and it’s a cool trip down memory lane. Only one the exes was really serious, and she was really just my high school girlfriend who I probably should’ve broken up with when I left for college, lmao, but it lasted a few years into that. We were together like 4 years, which is so laughable to me now, like I can’t believe people even decide if they want to marry someone in such a short window of time. Four years is four years, but to decide if you want to sign up for FIFTY? I need longer to see if the shine wears off of you, or if my shine wears off to you. I’ve been with my lady 16 years, and NOW I could say I could do a life sentence with her, but FOUR YEARS? No wonder half of ‘em get divorced, lmao.
I did receive a teddy bear 🧸 on my birthday from someone on here years ago. But, with the way our communication went…it was going downhill and there were some things that were said which really hurt me. We broke up and I told him that I’ll mail him the gifts back to him. Since he paid for them and it didn’t feel right of me keeping them. But he told me he didn’t want them and for me to keep them. Then years later had gone by and I saw the teddy bear in the closet and my memories came back of false promises, us arguing and getting hurt by each other. So I finally threw the teddy bear away so I could move on and not reminisce in the past.
No I eventually get rid of everything once I know its time for me to move on. With pictures I'll usually just put a sticker over his face the only picture I have of him is him being drunk on a on a boat covered in his own sick as a reminder to never go back to him and how fat I've came from leaving that boy behind
I keep two photos from my first real relationship. The first is the one I used to look at when I missed her, the second is the one she sent me when I realized it was over.
Reminds me to be careful I'm seeing things for what they are and not just what I want them to be
When I broke up with my first boyfriend I kept a box of all our pictures together and all the things he had given me, but I’ve never done that for any other relationship. The only reason I haven’t thrown that box out by now is because it’s at my parents’ house and I don’t live with them anymore. I really should get rid of it next time I visit.
I never could delete the ones entirely from the ones I loved most. But what I did was I backed it up and encrypted it on remote devices in a way so annoying to retrieve back that it would at least make me question the cost vs. reward of doing so each time I was tempted.
I keep everything!!! I am a very sentimental person. I cannot bring myself to part with certain things which includes my son's drawings and paintings from elementary school from 40 years ago.
I still have my diaries from 1970&1972.
I have every letter and greeting card my ex husband ever gave me from '75-'78. Then he left.
I am not a hoarder by all means. Everything is in a separate plastic storage box.
Yeah I have a few from my ex. I keep them in a box, he was my first boyfriend and serious relationship. We were together for 12 years. I realized when I went through that box that almost all of the mementos were from when we were still in love. I didn't keep much from the later years
I do not keep anything but a phone full of pictures because pictures hold memories for me, I tend to keep things for a few weeks and then find them new homes or bin/burn them. My way of healing I guess. I currently have jewellery (rings) I was given. They make me feel safe when I am out and about - less people hit on a women whom have diamonds sitting on their wedding finger. (And no he didn’t ever propose).
I have kitchen items from ex-girlfriends that I still use. I liked my ex-girlfriends, and wish them well.
if there's one i regret it's deletinh our pics on fb... i hated myself for doing that. my ex is part of my life. although i don't have romantic feelings anymore it just feels like i wanna keep the memories
I keep the stuff and photos. Once when we was being dumped. I decided to grab some cups my ex had made me and move them out of my kitchen so I didn't have to see them. She took this as me trying to give them back and absolutely refused to take them back and said I had to keep them.
I've never kept anything. I've either returned it, if it was something of value, whether monetary (jewlery) or sentimental (his favorite hoodie), or I've pitched it.
If I were ever to it would probably be the custom Bill I make to declare both two’s as one. You could say it’s a Declaration of Dependence because that’s what a butler and maiden do when a pair of those is formed.
Like some sort of serial killer? fuck that!
But yes, gifts and presents from past relationships keep within reason.
I don't have a past relationship but I do have this one pic of me and this guy I was fucking at the time. I should probably delete it now that I am in a relationship but for some reason I can't make myself do it.
I used to when I was younger and then I realized I was being foolish and holding onto the past is terrible for your mental health.
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