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When we first got together there was a tie over between her and me (I never knew about this until after)

We were on a night out and we walked past her and he couldn’t stop laughing in her face almost and I said why? He said running joke.

Then the night after she messaged his friend in a rage saying how dare he did he have fun. My ex replied yeah I did. (Never knew this for months)

But him and his friends had a group chat with her name - it was in a joking way and didn’t talk about her just general conversation.

They all joked she was the only “thick” for him. And spoke about her when it came up like saying aww she would never etc. it was never in a way that was like she’s so hot etc. she’s stunning.

She uploaded a picture of her boobs with a smiley face drawn on it and it was sent to a chat and they just all laughed never said so amazing etc. they also did this with anyone else too.

But when we split he attempted to go back to everyone before me including her and his friends said she’s dumb enough to let you fuck her over again

We’re his friends and him obsessed or did I just see it that way?

He refused fo talk good about me with them. Made it out like I had nothing good etc cos he was so jealous of me. He hated I could get someone else instantly and he struggled massively. This girl was a one off then so was I. Before her he hasn’t managed to get sex for 6 months and desperately had to get her. He knew fine well I lowered what I’d go for to give him a chance.

I’ve known him for around 8 years. Up until the beginning of this year, I’ve been single. Never really wanted to be in a relationship etc etc.

I am 28 and he is 40. We have always flirted, he’s always been somewhat abrupt towards me in front of his wife, when the flirting has got too much and it’s getting intense he will stop himself and say “I’m married”. He’s always displayed jealousy when I interact with another man. He’s complimented me, he is always staring at me. He has said if he wasn’t married he would take me out etc. One time, he was talking about me in front of me and he said “she likes Italian men but I’m married”

He’s always encouraged me to meet a guy and settle down. However, he does not seem to like the fact that I’m in a serious relationship. He might say he’s “happy for me” but his facial expression and actions say the polar opposite. He is constantly giving my partner death stares, always ignores him (or if he has to say hi, it’s very icily polite), always asks me about him trying to gage if we are still together, when I told him I was buying a house he got very excited and happy - and then asked if my boyfriend would be living with me. I said yes, and his smile disappeared straight away and he became abrupt.

Why is he acting like a child? My partner thinks he’s obsessed.