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I realize asking strangers online will not solve my very real dilemma, but I thought I would anyway just to see what you all say.

Ultimately the choice is mine and only mine.

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I recently broke up with my boyfriend because he is indecisive on having children. Because of a previous marriage he is now traumatized to get married and have kids again. We love each other but I know I want marriage and kids.

Since I recently broke up with him, we still talk everyday and he told me he's thinking about kids more than he ever has before and how he doesn't want to lose me...

Wellll... to get over him quicker and distract myself because I'm so distraught over this breakup, I started talking to a man I briefly talked to before I got serious with my boyfriend. This man wants marriage, kids the whole shebang. We get along pretty well and I do like him.

The problem? Should I hold off with this new man until I'm absolutely sure my boyfriend has made up his mind about kids or should I just accept he's indecisive and start this new relationship with someone who actually wants what I want?

And no, no matter how many of you advise I take a break from dating altogether, I won't do that.

#relationshipadvice

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I created a dating profile 3 weeks ago to get some confidence since I was going through an insecure time, wasn’t really looking for anyone. Some men messaged me, but one guy stood out. He gave off this “I come as is” vibe which struck a cord with me for some reason so I exchanged socials with him to remain contact and deleted the app. Time continues and we’re talking every day, and things are going great.

He disclosed that he had to join the army right out of high school since he had gotten his then-girlfriend pregnant and now has a baby girl. He just started working a full time job and plans to go to a community college to earn his degree whereas I’m in graduate school with no kids. I understood him and we continued to grow from there. Then, the other night, I told him to visit me (we live 2 hours away from each other, and I requested that we meet in the middle so drive isn’t too bad).

He disclosed he didn’t have a paycheck from his job yet but would only need about $40 for gas. I paid for his gas, food, and toy for his dog while we hanged out the following day. He then asked me what particular app we met on since he had over 5 that has been used for over a month. He stated that girls would talk for a couple of days then leave, but I never left so he deleted them all (or he claims). He had a very neutral decision on sex like “if you want it, sure. If not, it’s fine.” But we ended up having sex anyway because I was very smitten with him at that time.

I asked if we were together as boyfriend/girlfriend since the first date went great and he said he likes me but not ready for that yet since he wants to know me more (even though I told him I’m an open-book) and wants to go on more dates. I agreed since I didn’t really have a choice and now after a day has passed, he isn’t really talking to me much and doesn’t seem interested anymore like leaving me on read. I’m not sure what to do because I spent over $100 on the date and was hoping he’d help pay some of that back.