Should I mention to my boyfriend about this guy, something with him is off?

[Anonymous]

Before my current boyfriend, I used to have multiple sex partners by choice or one-night stands but once we started dating I said goodbye to all. A lot of my friends don't support it cause they thought I'd have a fling but one year later, we are still together. Sometimes I miss my previous life and the fun but I wouldn't trade it for my previous times. The thing is that I have my friends on the one hand who say that I'll get married and they'll lose me and on the other, some guys I used to meet that don't get that I am not into that anymore. There is an ex-colleague of mine that we used to meet casually but I cut him off once I got into a relationship. Lately he started commenting under my posts, liking all of my pictures, texting me in private giving me compliments and shit which make me feel uncomfortable since I told him multiple times that I am not interested and he knows that I have a boyfriend. He started bugging me more and more and few texts became daily ones, and I started feeling suffocated. He claims that we are just friends. Now he wants to meet with me and my friends or party together but I don't trust him he's kind of sketchy and he used to be known in the work place as having a d* attitude. Clearly, he's not in my circle of friends and I don't intend to include him but he started becoming obsessive and I don't like it. I haven't mentioned anything to my boyfriend cause he has a tantrum sometimes and gets jealous. I am kind of bugged atm by this guy and I try to keep it polite cause I don't want to block him. If I don't reply to his texts, he'll send me some more. Is this normal, wanting to chat all the time? I don't chat with my friends that much and not even with my partner. Or should I try to cut him off politely?

[Anonymous]

If he looks dangerous and impulsive, be careful and let someone know about what's going on. He sounds obsessive, you could be direct and let him know that you're not interested in anything to do with him, something like: "I think it's better if we stop talking, I'll have to block you if you keep contacting me"

[Asker]

yeah I might end up doing that, just got another text asking when are we hanging out with my group. I kind of not like to block people that's why I was wondering if I can cut him off in any other way without having to take this measure. I also feel bad cause this has been going on for a while but I didn't mention it to my partner. Meanwhile, I got an ex who used to harass me like that & I blocked him cause he was creating trouble in my relationship- same pattern, texting friendly becoming overbearing. He has been creating new profiles & texts me, so I hope this won't turn out the same way. My partner and I have been arguing about this, he thinks I have poor boundaries and I am being too nice.

[Opinion Owner]

Being too nice isn't really about being nice at this point, is about keeping things calm and also for safety.

[Guy13]

If it were me, I would have blocked all that crowd from Day 1 that i committed to current boyfriend. Perhaps, I am an anomaly but that's what i would have done.

[Asker]

I get your point, its not really my style I only did it one time as I wrote in the above comment. I am loyal and there's trust. If something becomes too much I always discuss it with my partner so he's filled in but I dont want to tell him about every single guy that is bugging me. There are certain types of guys who dont let go and they create trouble for me.

[Guy13]

Alright-hope current works out exactly how you wish !!

[Anonymous]

"I don't want to block him" ? 😜