Why do women marry and settle down at age 25? How can I get a relationship at age 25? I’m having. Mental breakdown help?

[Anonymous]

I’m turning 25 ocotber & having breakdown. I’m depresed crying as it gets to the point when u had enough. I’m a grown women now & I desire do adult things like spend chritmas Thanksgiving with a boyfriend at each others families home, take pics with a boyfriend on all dates, plan live together, have babies. I never had a guy attend a family party with me. It got to the point I no longer see my family 2-3 years now. My parents don’t own a home so they spend all parties at married brothers home. But they have huge parties with wife’s family like all her 4 sisters with boyfriend come, her cousins with boyfriend or husband come, plus kids, and I would be only one alone stupid. I want feel like a grown WOMEN glowing have man next to me eat at party sit next to me, feel butterflies excited. I no longer spend Christmas for this reason. I look like stupid little baby alone & ebeyone glowing butterflies dressed up next to a man. I don’t want HEAR ANYONE say focus on school focus on job!!!😡😡😡 I live alone in a studio & my life can’t be like this forever I feel I’m wasting my life away. I clean cook work 3 jobs rn, loyal smart, loving& I don't know y no one wants keep me. I now feel stupid loser worthless going to the stores as I’m alone and all women r next to a man. Why those women r worthy n have kids or pregnant & I have no man next to me like glue? I’m not ugly but I’m very skinny due to sadness unhappiness and stress. And genetics. I’m not thick which might be the problem. Even men look at me with angry face or weird as I’m alone go to my car alone. Feel like a retard 😓I’m independent cuz I’m lonely hav no other choice

[ethanallen]

I am going to sound a little rough here. First, you have a lot of negativity. That turns off men. Men love positive women. From reading your remarks, I am concerned that you might be clinically depressed. Here is a popular set of questions you can ask yourself to see if you might be depressed. Look at the questions below, then go see your doctor. If you are depressed and not getting treatment, you'll never feel better. However, with the right treatment, you mood will dramatically improve and you will find a relationship. On a separate note, your writing is poor. What educated 25 year old uses "cuz" in place of because? That is immature sounding. Maybe you have a maturity problem.

1. Little interest or pleasure in doing things
2. Feeling down, depressed, or hopeless
3. Trouble falling or staying asleep, or sleeping too much
4. Feeling tired or having little energy
5. Poor appetite or overeating
6. Feeling bad about yourself - or that you are a failure or have let yourself or your family down
7. Trouble concentrating on things, such as reading the newspaper or watching television
8. Moving or speaking so slowly that other people could have noticedOr the opposite - being so fidgety or restless that you have been moving around a lot more than usual
9. Thoughts that you would be better off dead, or of hurting yourself
10. If you checked off any problems, how difficult have these problems made it for you at work, home, or with other people?

[Asker]

I’m always positive & still I don’t have guy asking me to meet his family. 😞 I write fast I don’t have time write perfect paragraphs. That’s y I use cuz. Therapists don’t help I had therapists laugh at me cuz I said I want have life with a man like all my family

[Asker]

They all laugh act immatire and appointments are 5 months to get one.

[Asker]

I had relationship with one guy I knew him many years my bestest friend ever but he deny meet my family & don’t let me meet his family & deny spend holidays with me. Every answer was no no no no. He spends life with his mom & sister and her boyfriend & her kids.

[Asker]

Y that girl is saying meeting parents is a trash relationship? im so confused

[ethanallen]

If the remarks about therapist was in my reply discussing the depression scale and seeing a doctor, I want to clarify. If you are in the United States, therapists (psychologists, licensed clinical social works) don't "typically" prescribe medications (although this varies by state). I suggested seeing a medical practitioner (MD, DO, PA or NP) who can start you on an antidepressant if necessary.

[FilmGuy93]

What are some things you do in living your life that will bring you in touch with datable men?

[Asker]

I don't know I’m like a married women I just work clean all day & go grocery shopping alone surrounded by girls with bfs and babies

[FilmGuy93]

That needs to change then

[kylee2437]

Sounds like a you issue. You are going to have horrible relationship issues/ exposed to possible abuse if your self worth is based on the materialistic things of a relationship vs having enough self worth to know you are living a great life single or taken.

[Asker]

Holidays and parties and. Babies are not material things

[Asker]

All girls cannot Date a guy if he deny do all those things.

[Asker]

It’s not normal all women bring a boyfriend to the family party and I’m only one alone as men run away from being seen with me and my family. No one want stand next to me & show family I’m their girlfriend 😓

[Asker]

No one want enjoy family party with me eat talk enjoy

[kylee2437]

Actually those are material things, including babies. You bringing a baby into a destructive relationship because you want one is selfish

[Asker]

So if ur boyfriend deny spend chritmas with me deny go to your family parties deny meet ur family then u will stay with him?

[Asker]

Is that what ur saying?

[kylee2437]

So you just proved my point. You self worth is based off of trash relationship but you would rather be taken and unhappy being having a boyfriend whether he is trash or not validates your self worth.

[Asker]

Ur confusing me. U didn’t answer yes or no if u would date a guy that don’t do that. So meeting family is a trash relationship?

[kylee2437]

Because I don’t need to answer that. I wouldn’t be in a relationship that doesn’t serve me what I want. The whole point is, you will /are most likely settling for a relationship that isn’t making you happy because you have low self esteem

[Asker]

But if a like a guy I’m rejected while all girls get any guy they want fast I don’t get it

[Asker]

It’s impossible get. A boyfriend

[kylee2437]

Your issue is, is you aren’t comfortable with being alone and that’s a bigger issue to digest. You can be married for 20 years and then your partner wants to get divorced. How would you react to that?

[LazerBean]

People probably avoid you because you are negative. At least that's what it sounds like.

[Asker]

I’m negative in this post as I’m stressed. Men don’t want meet girls fmaily

[Asker]

This post is just explaining my issues my anger my breakdown that’s y it sounds negative

[Asker]

I’m positive and the men r negative run away far to avoid spend chritmas or family party with me

[Twalli]

Dating sites may help. Otherwise try social groups.

[KrakenAttackin]

How about checking your friend zone?

[Asker]

I only have one guy friend but he’s UGLY even my mom said she wants vomitt when she met him. I dated one guy but recently we got i fight so we aren’t talking 3 wks now. He was like a boyfriend but ik him many years. We don’t meet family & he deny holidays anything with me. He maybe accepted spend bday ocotber with me but that’s it. We would meet weekly but he’s been lagging since April.

[Asker]

Now as I’m older I no longer have guy friends as eveyone now has a girlfriend or fiancé so they stay away from being my friend. Only when ur out of highscool it was easy have guy friends as no one had a girlfriend or married that age

[Asker]

I don’t want sex either I just want a boyfriend finally let me experience what it’s like to meet families and he comes to my families party or chritmas stand next to me