What age do women feel the most pressure to settle down?

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I'm just curious really and I understand it's different strokes for different fokes. I just see women in there early 20's getting married and for me I feel that's to early in life. I was think more early 30's but I also understand women have a biological clock. What's your opinion?

bat0209 · Accepted Answer

To be honest I never want to do the whole get married have kids and such as I am asexual with big goals that would require my full attention in order to succeed in them.
However in saying this I am not the same as my mother who wants me to have a herd of children so she can have grandkids. Honestly I think this is some sort of self-fulfillment for her as she's been a single mom for all thirteen years of my life so far and I've never even met my father.
Whenever I make statements about things like a checkpoint in my thirties so I'd be on the right track for my goals she says something like "Oh you'll want to settle down by then." So the idea of early to mid thirties as a good time to settle down seems to be popular in the area I live in.

paulina_g · Accepted Answer

Late 20s/early 30s. When we're in our early twenties most of us just want to have fun and enjoy life, be it with or without a boyfriend. But when we enter our 30's things change as the biological clock starts ticking. I think a lot of women like the security of having a stable relationship because the older you get, the harder it is to find a good guy. Most are already taken. Also, women face a lot of pressure from their environment. Most people (especially relatives) seem to think that something's wrong with you if you've been single for a long time and it only gets worse the older you get.

kat_gran · Accepted Answer

Anyone who marries before the age of 28 (MINIMUM) is just whack...
I have and feel ABSOLUTELY NOOOOOOO pressure to get married, or settle down or worse, have kids!
Mayyyybeeeee! When I am 30, I will start thinking about those things, but for now my only priority is making money and that is where I feel the most pressure right now. To be independent and make money all on my own.

IDC about any biological clock :) I already told my parents I dont want to have kids, so I'm warming them up to the thought from early on ;) Im 25 by the way.

Humping_Tornadoes · Accepted Answer

Most of my female friends, my age, are either married or have kids. Some dudes my age, are beginning to be tied up in serious relationships. An old friend just got engaged recently. But I second your claim, since most of my guy friends and aquaintances are in no rush to marry and some refuse to slow down a bit even.

cheapshotbob · Accepted Answer

i can say from the women in my age group its not as they get older though a lot do get married by then. i think its really on how they feel they are being looked at by others if they want to get married early or late in life.

Jxpxtxr · Answer

Yeah I think it might start around the late 20s and then get more and more as we get older.
Personally I wouldn't never rush into a relationship because of societal expectations that just seems so stupid, plus I don't want children so no clock for me 💁🏻

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 26 now and I am feeling a lot of pressure. My mom keeps urging me to find a guy, any guy, and just have a baby. I'm really conflicted, because I understand she means well. But I just feel like she is being incredibly selfish and mean by even suggesting that. I want to meet a guy who is going to make me happy, not treat me like crap.

Most of my friends have kids already, a few of my friends are on their third or fourth kid. And most of them are married of have a SO. I'm single and have been for a while. It's not for my lack of trying though. I've tried and have been trying, but guys just don't seem to be too interested in me.

If they are interested in me, it's guys who wish to control me or abuse me :(

I'm not sure why I am attracting that type of person. I just want a regular guy, but they are too good for me for some reason :(

Anonymous · Answer

Yes women do have a biological clock. The most ideal time to get married is probably 23, 24, 25. Anything 25 and older seems to be pushing it according to the girls I socialize around. I've been getting pressured since 22 and I'm 24 now and Girls talk to me like I'm some old grandma who failed to find a husband. All these girls were engaged at 23 and married by 24 and I still have found no one. The pressure really kills my self esteem to the point i actually gave up looking for someone and trying to enjoy one day at a time alone and single. The pressure is pretty sad for girls but guys really don't have a specific age to settle down. I know most guys expect to be married by 28 at least.

Anonymous · Answer

As a 30 year old, I have felt the pressure for the last few years (mostly from family members). I am in a stable relationship and want to settle down in the next few years, but I have known for a long time that I don't want kids. It is a life choice that my boyfriend and me have both decided and my parents are accepting of it.

lovelyleelee · Answer

There are a lot of environmental factors that contribute to women feeling pressured to settle down, especially society. The idea for women now is to go to school, get a good jo, establish a good career and income, meet a good guy and get married and have kids at least by 35. That's what a lof of us see as well, but that isn't the reality for all of us...

nemer26 · Answer

I got married when I was 19. Divorced by 27. I was ready, but I think our timing and personalities didn't match up. We have two amazing kids. And now I'm coming up on 30 trying to be a better me and "settle" with myself. I think it just depends on where you're at in your life.

OjosOscuros2 · Answer

I'd say nowadays the goal is to be in a serious relationship by mid 20s at least. That way you've dated and got to know the person for few years and then get married before you're 30. Then by 30-33 start having babies (if their goal is to have a family). I've heard more and more people say they don't want children though so I think it depends.

Sara413 · Answer

For me I wasn't really interested til the second half of my twenties and even then I didn't really start to feel a real urge to want to settle down and get married til late twenties. I don't want kids tho so that might impact things. My boyfriend and I are heading towards marriage but not rushing since there's not really sure reason to (again, because we don't want kids).

juliaaa · Answer

I would want to get married between 25 and 30, preferably closer to 25 than 30. I just like sharing my life with someone. I'm not looking forward to living alone in grad school (even though it will be nice to have privacy) for 3 years so after I get my Master's and get settled in a job and have MY life together, I would like to get married shortly after.

Poppykate · Answer

30, but I am ok growing old and dying alone. Lol but seriously, generally 30 is usually the age when women get pressure put on them to settle down. For men I think it is 40.

jesshkah · Answer

For me... By my late 20's I'd want to be with the person I intend on marrying. Marriage later is fine, but I would want to have found that person already.

justbanANNAz · Answer

I dont feel pressured. I just know id like to settle in my late 20s. If it doesn't happen, im okay with that, ill wait.

Tdieseler · Answer

*folks... i believe women feel that pressure from like age 13... thats when they get really annoying about the whole marrying thing.

mistixs · Answer

I think part of the reason women get married younger is that they're told that if they get past a certain age...25ish... then they're no longer at their "peak" and no men will want them after

PixieDust · Answer

Mid 30s especially for those who loves children. In my 20s i couldn't imagine myself settling down yet but then no one feels they're ready until they meet someone they can think of having a future with.

Lenlexyz · Answer

I'll probably start panicking around the age of 25 if I haven't settled down yet. But it is common to see many of my high school classmates having kids or getting married. However, I don't feel pressured to settle down yet.

Azara · Answer

Most mArriiages are on average three years plus or minus in difference. A woman marrying in her twenties is usually marrying a guy in his twenties.

I personally feel l no pressure what's soever to settle down. Never have. Don't think it's for me.

Miss_Behave · Answer

Generally, I think women get pressured by others of they haven't settled down as they approach 30.
I've been pressured by mostly family but nothing they say affects me because I'm me and I see myself as a unique individual and I know what I want.

MissFabulous · Answer

I would say around 27 or 30. I know a lot people who are like I want to get married at 24 & have kids at 27 but it depends on the person. Im fine with marrying at 30 & kids at 32 or 33. :)

HenryThePrideful · Answer

When their friends are getting married and they see the wedding photos/baby pics on FB and feel like the odd duckling out.

Rissyanne · Answer

When I was in my early 20's I got married. I was brought up that you got married and had a family. Well I wish I would have waited till at least my late 20's.

somebodysaycheese · Answer

I'm not being pressured but it's been brought up. So I think my early 30's is when I will feel the pressure I think either sex will the pressure around that time.

bluenose1872 · Answer

Do things when they feel natural not because society says you should. These are matters of the heart not the calendar

Katy16 · Answer

I'm 20 and would love to but I'd say it really starts around 25 to 30

rlittledistraction · Answer

Mostly when their friends do. Friends can be huge influences.

luna222 · Answer

I think women (and men) should settle down whenever they find "The one". Not sooner, not later.

FakeName123 · Answer

30-35 aka when their biological clock is ticking after they gone selfishly through life with the mindest they can have it all.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say yes now a days mid to late 20's but, if u could hold off until ur 30's it'll be best

06CuriousMind · Answer

I want to get married sooner rather than later. But i wouldn't settle down until I'm with the right person though, so who knows how long that will take lol

Anonymous · Answer

All these people saying 25-30 is depressing. No wonder dating sucks now. Fuck it, I'm sticking to escorts.

mberrie · Answer

Everyone is different. I definitely lack this "biological clock" I have never in my life wanted to get married and still don't.

rose004b · Answer

When they hit their 30's because they start to worry about having children before their fertility plummets.

Bowshots86 · Answer

I think it is more of an exponential chart and the older they get the more pressure they feel to get married

dudeman · Answer

if women were smart they would be with the person they are going to marry by 21-22

Anonymous · Answer

I always think about it and I say that I would want to settle down at age 27 or 25 because for me it's the perfect age to have kids.

WoOolf · Answer

I think it's because there's a time that all Your friends start to get marry and girls and some guys feel the pressure to go with the "floow"... unfortunately.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Whenever they can find a gullible man, which most guys nowadays are pussy whipped

Anonymous · Answer

I think in their mid 20's to 30's they feel the most pressure.

lpnorie0910 · Answer

Based on personal experience I settled down at the age 21. Lets just say that was a bad idea

Anonymous · Answer

I would say mid-30s because once they reach 40, it's very difficult to have kids (not impossible). That's when they feel the most pressure.

DarkHumorRUs · Answer

I feel it too. I feel it in the air.

Highthoughts · Answer

I go to school and work but for me late 20's.

karahiri · Answer

i think around 32+

ElissaDido · Answer

Over 35 I think.

Mesonfielde · Answer

I'd say 28.

MaiNameIsSunshine · Answer

I'd say early 30's.

idkwtftoputhere · Answer

Never.

jacquesvol · Answer

23-30 I'd guess.

takumii · Answer

30sh

blondfrog · Answer

Late 20's for sure.

bcromartie · Answer

I'm guessing 27!

LionizeLeLion · Answer

Any age.

Anonymous · Answer

In the thirties

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