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I like my boss. He is such a sweetheart! He makes eye contact when we talk, laughs/jokes with me, tries to invite me to work outings (which I usually avoid unless they're mandatory), etc. I know he's my boss, but he makes it a point to let me know he'll accept a call for help at any time of the day and wants me to call him when I'm feeling down... I joked about the latter when he first suggested it and accidentally chuckled in a sultry way, which he seemed to do in return? I felt there was some "tension" between us at that time... but that could have been my own "tension" talking.

I love that he's respectful to women regardless of looks, and I also realize that he might not be into me and is just being kind. DGMW, I'm not ugly... but I'm very aware that I'm not everyone's cup of tea... I've been reminded of that multiple times since I was young. Penelope/Colin relationships, especially ones where Pen looks more like Kate or Lady Danbury than Daphne or Queen Charlotte, are uncommon. I've also noticed my coworkers (mostly the women) acting funny towards me ever since this one time he told me he liked my hair. I can't tell when I'm liked because it's so few and far between, so I don't know if they're seeing something I'm not or just being weird... don't men compliment hair?

I made the mistake of dating a coworker while we worked together years ago; I wouldn't dare pursue a relationship with a coworker now. I've also been rejected by every guy I've ever confessed to, so I'm hesitant to put myself out there. I want him to make the first move, but I'm also worried, if he feels the same way, that he's too scared to say anything to me... so I want to try to "guide" him to me. I told him a few months back that I wanted him to "not be a stranger" with me after I quit, and he's said I should let him know when I'm quitting. "Tension" made me feel he was saying it in that sort of way, and I'm thinking of revisiting that convo when I tell him I'm quitting.

I’ve never actually had a conversation with him before and I only know him by name. He works in another department and works mostly remotely, I’d say once a month him and his colleagues are on site.

- First time I noticed him properly, he turned his head in my direction and smiled at me from quite a distance away

- I was sat eating lunch with a friend and he walked past with some colleagues. I looked up and he looked at me, we made eye contact for a few seconds as he walked past (he didn’t smile)

- When walking through a corridor he came towards me and he smiled and said hello. I scuttled off because I’m quite a shy person!

- I went for a walk up the hill at lunch time and he was with his department colleagues. They were coming down the hill and I was walking towards them. I noticed him staring at me from quite a distance away. When we got closer he smiled and said hi.

- I was chatting with one of the baristas at work who was talking about backache. She made a joke about me having backache because of my boobs. We were then having a joke about my boobs and I didn’t realise at the time, but the guy was around the corner grabbing some food. When I walked away and looked behind, he was staring and smiling at me, clearly having heard the whole conversation.

He is one of those guys who is so good looking that they are intimidating to me haha. So I’m way too shy to strike up a conversation.