Search Results: women say they look for nice guys

I really do feel like I am cursed with interpersonal relationships. I do not have any friends, I have surely been wronged & never had an actual relationship. I feel like most women get attention from guys, they don’t even have to do anything to show interest. They just go about their day & love/potential suitors find them. I have tried the dating apps & have more negative than positive experiences. Hence, I have to use dating apps because of my inability to have a social life & get approached by a decent guy in person. I have tried the paid & free apps. I must say, paid does not necessarily mean any better in my life. When I have spoken to guys on the free app, I get noticed by the wrong ones. The ones I don’t find attractive always show interest & when I do get noticed by the good looking ones, they’re not the nicest. I feel like I’m cursed, I’m told I’m attractive. So you’d think I would have them wrapped around my finger but clearly not the case. I just don’t have the confidence to approach someone & I don’t think I should need to, considering most women don’t have to approach men.

Is the issue me or are men just this trashy?

honestly I see so many men say they hate women who wear makeup, dress up, or get their nails done etc, Only like natural beauties, I get liking natural girls I get it wanting a natural beauty, but it’s strange to me why so many guys would hate a woman who puts effort into her appearance rather than just wakes up gets out of bed then chucks anything on with zero effort, why do you think so many men say this? I’m not talking about “high maintenance” I’m talking just a woman who takes care of herself and makes a effort what is unattractive about making a effort? Like I notice men don’t seem to have a problem about women going to the gym or taking care of her body or weight but I don’t see why a woman dressing up or making herself look nice is a bad thing because it shows they care about themselves in the same way if they work out or put effort into their bodies, surely it’s a good thing. opinions? (I know this isn't all men by the way, it’s why I put “some”)