This one's for the guys who all try to say that confident and conceited are the same, that is, yep, because conceit doesn't get the women but confidence will win us over, and they wonder why 🤔 It's not hard to tell that there are quite a few guys on GAG with this view, so let's show the difference, shall we?
I also want to add a bit of a lead-off here: You guys here on GAG are always asking why we like bad boys and not nice guys, right? We like the confident attitude that bad boys show! Ever notice how stuck-up bad boys don't really get the women and yet confident good guys do? :) Something to think about for you. Also consider the risk-taking characteristic because this goes along with confidence.
I was actually watching Victorious (yes, we still watch that lol 😂) with my friend when this first scene came on, and she mentioned the issue of guys not knowing the difference. Here we go.
Scene #1: Beck's Confident Attitude in Victorious (This is random so I'm not posting a video.)
In Victorious, Beck is the cool confident guy - the guy all the chicks want. In the scene I'm referencing, he fixes Robbie's car. (Robbie is a very unattractive guy, not somebody girls enjoy being around.) As Beck is fixing the car, lots of girls walk by and call to him and flirt with him. He doesn't even brag about fixing the car or try to make himself look great... why? Because he already knows he is! #confidence Yeah, he gets flirted with all the time, so what should he need to prove? This is why the ladies love him. He's helping a friend and not trying to show off, but yet he's still doing a masculine activity. He's polite to the ladies but doesn't flirt in return... why? Because he doesn't need to make himself known and try to be the center of attention, since he's that without even trying. Beck even offers to go and lead some cheerleaders back to Robbie. This shows his confident and polite nature. He proves everything by his attitude.
The Conceited Side would have been for Beck to flirt with the girls and save all the cheerleaders for himself. Stuck-up guys think they're the center, and they're more up-tight and "Look at me!"
Scene #2: Edward's Confident Attitude in Twilight (YouTube video provided)
He doesn't even budge when she's like, "Really? You're asking me about the weather?" This is a good example of confidence. Not-so-confident guys will stop here and be offended when there's nothing to be offended about. Edward keeps a casual confident stance and continues the conversation.
The Conceited Side would have been for Edward to take offense of it and think well I'm too good to talk to her anyway or say something like, "Is there something wrong with me asking you about the weather?"
*I could provide many more examples, but I think the gist is clear with even just these two. I honestly don't feel like going through links at the moment.*
Simple Ways To Know The Difference: It's all about how you react to small things - really small things, like somebody accidentally running into you in a shopping mall or accidentally stepping on a shoe, for examples. Do you dismiss it, be polite, show some confidence, and not even get offended? Or do you take offense and get upset over these things easily?
If another guy attempts to teach you something with your girlfriend standing by your side, do you either 1) get the insecure feeling of him being more knowledgeable on this topic and being near your girlfriend? or 2) act like you know it all, like you didn't even need the help? That's arrogant. A confident man will be more like, "Hey, thanks! I'll be using that," and that gives the good vibe to his girlfriend standing there that he is secure within himself and collected with manners.
Can you step back and laugh at yourself sometimes, admit you made a stupid mistake? Or do you always feel the need to justify it?
Do you say you'll do things a lot more than you actually do them? Even if you call yourself joking, because I hear guys use that excuse a lot, do you say you're going to do a lot of things that you never actually get around to doing? OR Are you one who just does? Like it doesn't even need announcing and you don't have to let the entire world know you're going to do it, and you just do it? The speaker is arrogant; the accomplished is confident.
A common well-known example of this today is modern rap music and sometimes hip-hop. Many of the songs are all, "Hey, look at me!" instead of having a confident laid-back easy-going vibe. Don't get me wrong, I love these genres and they are some of my favorites, and the beats are great to dance to, but it doesn't take any further deciphering to know what I'm getting at here. This is why you see more of the laid-back pop singers like Shawn Mendes, Charlie Puth, The Weeknd, etc. getting most of the pretty women. They don't feel the need to sing mainly about themselves because people already know them for those appealing characteristics, and therefore they give off confidence with a sense of humility - the best combination!
CONCLUSION: Notice that the CONFIDENT ones are calm and relaxed, have a laid-back and content stance, don't freak out over the slightest thing that could have been taken offensively, and aren't all "Look at me! All the girls should be over here with me!" ... because that's kinda why the girls wouldn't be over there. We like a confident man, not a conceited one.
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