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Pros and cons for each:

Unhappily married pros:
1. You’re not alone
2. You have a better standard of living than you would on your own finances
3. He doesn’t make you happy, but he’s not a scumbag

Unhappily married cons:
1. You’re unhappy in your marriage
2. You’re taking care of your family more than yourself
3. Your achievements have to be shared with your family rather than just yourself

Happily single pros:
1. You’re happy with your life
2. You are fully independent with complete control
3. Every achievement is yours to own

Happily single cons:
1. You’re alone
2. People assume you’re unhappy because you don’t have a man
3. Dating struggles

For context, this man was married to his wife for like a good 12 years. A few years back he was in a car accident due to reckless driving that has ended up in almost complete paralysis of his legs. Last year she eventually left him, and they share four kids under the age of 9.

He said things were rocky prior to the breakup with her saying some particularly nasty things and blaming him for his accident etc. They started to argue a lot and the relationship collapsed. She’s now very bitter toward him, however, I think she’s been hoping to get back together and fix things with him, but he is refusing her advances and saying he’s moved on.

He’s keen to meet up with me. However, I know exactly how his ex feels in her position. I know exactly how it feels for the person you love to move on with someone new when all you want to do is fight for your relationship. I understand she may have left the relationship, but they share 4 kids together. And maybe she is having some regrets. I don’t want to be that woman that swoops in and gets in the middle of that sort of thing, especially where young children are involved. What are your thoughts?