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For context, we met up for first time from app yesterday & had two calls earlier this week. I was questioning if he was interested to begin with bc with the calls earlier this week, he’s the one that ended them in less than 30 min. And yesterday, he ended the dinner too because he “knew I had somewhere to go & didn’t want to hold me back” (told him I had to go out of town with family & would need to leave in the night). I haven’t heard from him since, he drove 45 min to meet me at a local restaurant, paid for the bill, walked me to my car & hugged me twice (in my opinion all common courtesy). He asked most of the questions, by now I’m just used to the guy reaching out maybe an hr after meeting up telling me they want to see me again or at least wanting to make sure I got home safely. I deleted the app yesterday but still have him on discord, he shared his # when we spoke on the phone earlier this week but I hid mine for safety reasons. Honestly I’m not interested in seeing him again, I just hate rejection. Also when we were msging earlier on, we didn’t talk consistently throughout the day like I’m used to with other people I’d speak with before. I’ve become lower effort in that sense bc I’m not as invested but if a guy is interested he’d pursue. Last thing I’ll add is he asked me maybe 2-3x if I had new years plans & kept telling him not sure yet/might do something with family. I can’t anymore 🙄. I’m giving it a week & if I don’t hear back from him, I’m deleting him from discord.

For context, we met up for first time from app yesterday & had two calls earlier this week. I was questioning if he was interested to begin with bc with the calls earlier this week, he’s the one that ended them in less than 30 min. And yesterday, he ended the dinner too because he “knew I had somewhere to go & didn’t want to hold me back” (told him I had to go out of town with family & would need to leave in the night). I haven’t heard from him since, he drove 45 min to meet me at a local restaurant, paid for the bill, walked me to my car & hugged me twice (in my opinion all common courtesy). He asked most of the questions, by now I’m just used to the guy reaching out maybe an hr after meeting up telling me they want to see me again or at least wanting to make sure I got home safely. I deleted the app yesterday but still have him on discord, he shared his # when we spoke on the phone earlier this week but I hid mine for safety reasons. Honestly I’m not interested in seeing him again, I just hate rejection. Also when we were msging earlier on, we didn’t talk consistently throughout the day like I’m used to with other people I’d speak with in the past. I’ve become lower effort in that sense bc I’m not as invested but if a guy is interested he’d pursue. Last thing I’ll add is he asked me maybe 2-3x if I had new years plans & kept telling him not sure yet/might do something with family. I can’t anymore 🙄. I’m giving it a week & if I don’t hear back from him, I’m deleting him from discord.

I met a guy online YEARS ago, and when we 1st met, we were very much in love with each other, considering we were kids. We were dating for a few months online (lived 3 hours away, but he didn't have a car to visit, and I felt uncomfortable with the drive), so we never saw each other physically besides video calls/pics. I met a guy at my undergrad school and dropped him to pursue that relationship. But we have contacted each other at least once a year since the initial split to catch up. Each time I would hear from him, he would be with another girl while I was in the same relationship. He joined the military, and I was very excited to hear from him after he was finished because I still had feelings for him.

After he left boot camp, he informed me that he was stationed across the world without a choice and that we would figure out how to communicate best since there were time differences. Around this time, my dad passed, so I was in a bad mental state, but we were planning on seeing each other since he was going to move to a different location shortly while I was going to the same city for a school conference. He disclosed that he cheated on me with another girl by getting her pregnant (miscarriage), and he couldn't see me as promised due to military circumstances. I was devasted and told him never to contact me again. I spied on him via social media to see what he was up to, and he got engaged to another girl.

Recently, he kept popping up on my social media, and I decided to message him at the beginning of this month to check-in. He was thrilled I reached out. He told me that his engagement had been canceled, disclosed that he loved me, and said he'd pay for my flight to see him physically. I got weird vibes about it all since he didn't fully close the ex-fiance chapter and even had sex with her while we were discussing our future. I cut it off yesterday because he did not show that he changed. Do you think I did the right thing?