I'm currently a 20 year old male weighing 140 lbs, and I can bench 155 lbs for 1 rep max, overhead press 105 lbs for 1 rep max, barbell bicep curl 70 lbs for 1 rep max, and dumbbell press 50 lbs for 1 rep max.
This dude at my college (R) teased me a couple of times. He doesn't try to actively pursue me or anything, but any time we talk he claims that 50% of women can bench more than 155 lbs and hence 50% of women are much stronger than me, that 50% of women can beat me up in a street fight, including his girlfriend, and that I'm below the strength for the average man.
The more I think about his remarks, the angrier I get. And for the past couple of weeks, I have had these very pervasive thoughts about punching both him and his girlfriend in the face and breaking their noses, and continuing to box them while they're on the ground. Sometimes I would even think about wrapping my hands around their throat and choking them unconscious.
I've also had these crazy thoughts about beating up any random woman in general, like just going ham on them and bloodying them with my bare fists, or choking them out.
It's gotten to the point where I remind myself of the legal repercussions of assault and envision imaginative scenarios where if I were to follow through with my urges, then I could get suspended or expelled, or have the police show up at my door and arrest me for assault, as well as me losing career opportunities like internships and jobs.
Since I started having these thoughts, I have also actively avoided the commons area where R and his girlfriend hang out, and have since worked and studied and hung out at other areas on campus.
I'm scared of seeking therapy because I'm worried the therapist (especially at a university) can choose to break confidentiality and get law enforcement involved.
Is it true that I am physically weaker than the average man? And feel free to be honest. And has any other man dealt with similar feelings before? And if so, how did you deal with it?
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When ever another person makes you angry... they are controlling you. One thing I can guarantee you. Anyone that has the Word in their heart and who is in scripture daily will never have such thoughts and they will not get angry either.
If you are worried about being weak then do isometrics. You can build yourself a DIY Isochain using a wood platform, a numbered gymnastic strap and a lat pulldown handle. I guarantee that with this sort of training you will stronger than anyone else that does not do it, even those that can currently lift more than you.
Philippians 4:8
''Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.''
https://www.youtube.com/embed/D-RcX4Z441QFor men, it's currently below average, and that really doesn't matter right now.
Is there another entity you care about the wellbeing of who you can easily provide for, such as a pet, perhaps, or a fine charity? It'd help to know that someone's counting on you to be well for them.
My mistake in saying how much something matters to you. I apologize. Good resources for muscle and strength building are Alexander Cortes and the book called "Get Serious". It's almost always best psychologically and for physical strength for any man to avoid all xenoestrogens, some of which are found in soy and it's derivatives, flax and hops (beer). I need you to be well for your sake. Good luck and strength to you, brother.
What are the stats for the average man? And how do my stats compare to that of the average woman? Do you think I'm stronger than most women? Feel free to be honest.
You know what, Healthline seems to think that the average man of approximately your weight, on a ranking of Untrained-Novice-Intermediate-Advanced-Elite, would be between Novice and intermediate for bench pressing 155lb.
Source: Average Bench Press For Men And Women: By Fitness Level Healthline
www.healthline.com/.../average-bench-press
I leave the other stats as your own endeavor to look up. Search method is typing in- How much can an average male [insert name of exercise]?
Do you trust its accuracy? Because that would mean going off on the table for women, my bench press for is either above the Elite level (if my 140 lb weight gets rounded down to 132) or between the Advanced and Elite level (if my 140 lb weight gets rounded up to 148).
I don't know how accurate it is. If deep down you seek to display physical strength, then working out correctly in a gym, eating enough protein and avoiding xenoestrogens is the way to go.
Also eating prebiotics to digest the protein- they're plentiful in apples, bananas, cabbage and a few other plant foods.
Everyone can see your progress in a gym.
Or rather, the writings of ACortes.
Dude you didn't even answer my question. "And how do my stats compare to that of the average woman? Do you think I'm stronger than most women? Feel free to be honest."
I now get the sense that you're looking for a pretend-excuse to do something idiotic.
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