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For the most part I care to do right by people including women. That’s not to say I haven’t ever done and said things I regretted. That doesn’t I might have a few personality quirks that women don’t appreciate. But I do know I’ve overall try to do right.

But I also know there are some true POS guys out there. Abusive and violent men. Sociopaths. Psychopaths. I know damn well not every guy would react to a situation as thoughtfully as I would.

However find myself often initially give the other guy the benefit of doubt when I hear an abuse or sexual assault story from a woman. I will however convict the guy mentally if there is actual hard evidence to prove he really did something.

But while just hearing some woman’s verbal testimony I often find myself thinking “what if tha was me” she was accusing? I know I would never in my life do anything like the abuse stories we hear about men harming women. However if I don’t know the accused guy well I often keep asking questions about the incident to gather more info. I want to see if the woman is changing her story or leaving out crucial details (e. g. a woman claims a man hit her. But did she hit him first?).

But again it’s very naive to assume another guy would react and behave the same way I would in a situation. I never rule out he might be a truly violent abusive POS.

But do women second guess other women while hearing abuse claims? When they hear stories is there ever any doubt in their minds about the other woman is saying?

I bet some think twice about it. But from my observations women often immediately imagine themselves being the in the place of the victim in the verbal abuse story. Not all but they seem persuaded very quickly and take the other woman’s story at face value. Sometimes is the complete truth but not always. But are women able to imagine the possibility that the other woman might be malicious and a liar?

Everybody has made bad decisions in their life at some point they regret later. Some people are obviously worse than others. Sometimes we were just naive. Other times we were misguided. But often we were just being stupid and stubborn because we were fixated on an emotion or something else that made us act irrational.

I can own up to my mistakes and accept the consequences for better or worse. I said and did a lot of stupid things when I was younger. You can’t change the past but you can learn from it.

But from my observations I notice women are more likely to have to “learn the hard way” whether it’s dating the wrong kind of (abusive) men or supporting political causes that are based on emotion vs. facts/logic.

Not to say they don’t learn their lesson at some point. For example I talked a young woman who completely supported BLM but absolutely regretted after they publicly supported Hamas terrorists. I also spoke to another woman who once identified “as a man” when she was a teenager and early 20s. Now she’s in her late 20s she also completely regrets.

I bring up politics because supporting political causes just out of emotion has dire repercussions for society as a whole. This can be just as true for conservatives too. But overall I see people who blindly support leftist causes come to regret it later because they there is unforeseen consequences to radical policy.