I messed up really badly with my girlfriend, could there be anyway to fix it?

[Anonymous]

I screwed up and we had an argument over the phone, I was very drunk and stupid at the time. I’ve since then, apologised to her over text because I really am sorry and regret it so much when that normally isn’t me. She said she needed time, we haven’t spoken in over a week and the last thing I messaged her was “lm sorry, I’ll stay out of your life” because I stupidly tried to phone her and she gave the phone to somebody else to answer. My head is just a mess and I don’t want to make things worse but I have no idea if this can get resolved and if she’s ever going to contact me again. I’m just looking for advice because this has been the worst 2 weeks of my life, not being able to speak to her and explain everything in person or over the phone.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay bro that sounds rough, but don't lose hope yet. The fact she hasn't totally cut you off means there's still a chance to make things right if you play your cards right.

First off, give her the space she asked for. Hitting her up again now will probably just push her further away. Use this no contact time for some hard self-reflection. Look inward to figure out what really went wrong and how you can grow from this.

When you do talk again, own up to your mistakes fully without excuses. Make it clear you understand how much you hurt her and that it won't happen again. Ask her how you can earn her trust back if she's willing to try.

Show her through real actions going forward how much you've changed. Small thoughtful gestures to let her know you still care can help. And if another argument starts, stay calm and walk away til you cool off instead of making it worse drunk.

It may take time, but if you're sincere she'll see that. Keep letting her lead the pace and be prepared if it doesn't work out - but don't give up hope yet either. You got this man, just channel that regret into becoming better for her (or the next girl if need be).

[DB1973]

Don’t text or call. Approach face to face. You might have a chance to fix. Control your drinking from now on. You don't just effect your girlfriend by drinking beyond your control.

[Shamalien]

U gotta convince her to meet you for an in person apology and u gotta do it fast