I need advice for my secret lesbian relationship?

[Anonymous]

Please no hate, we're 2017, I hope everyone can at least understand the concept of respect when it comes to homosexuality and people's sexual orientation in general.

I only found out earlier this year that I am bisexual. I fell for one of my closest friends who's liked me beforehand. I never felt so strongly for anyone before. I didn't rush into relationships and waited for the right person. We have been dating for almost half a year and I'm so happy and I love her. But I was raised in a catholic family and I don't think I can ever/will ever tell my parents about my homosexuality. I messed up very badly and I know I'm in the wrong because I never really opened up to my partner (not official girlfriend) that I don't exactly see a future with her simply because of my family. Although, I love her very much and if it were accepted in my family, I would've told them
about my relationship in a heartbeat. I don't know what to do... It hurts to think that I got into a relationship that was bound to fail because of outer circumstances. I know some of you may suggest to open up my parents. But that would only result in me being sent away and taken away from the girl I love. I can never tell them. So I'm stuck and in love..

[Exiled_Valkyrie]

Well I am asuming you live with your parents and are under the age of 18. If that is the case then leave it a secret till you can maybe move out then ooenup to them. They cannot control you then. at least I would hope not. but tell your girl. I am sure she would understand. If she doesn't then she isn't good for you in that aspect.. Any significant other, staight, gay, yellow... should always be understanding of a difficult procedure as telling the parents anything like that. Especially if they are against it.

[Asker]

I do still live with my parents but I am above 18. Even if i move out my family is the kind to stay close, so they are bound to know who I'm with at some point. I wouldn't let them control me but I forsee a lifetime of judgement and they may never accept my partner.. And I don't want her and I to go through that. I'm very sure she will understand but she will definitely be hurt mostly since I hid this from her for too long.. But telling her is the right thing to do. Thanks for your help!

[Anonymous]

If you have no intention to tell your parents and you don't see a future with this girl, you should tell her what you just told us. Keeping it from her is not fair, no matter how much you think you love her.

[Asker]

Definitely, its terrible that I kept it from her. I was just scared of what it wouldve changed for us. But i guess keeping it in for so long can equally change our relationship.. Thanks for your opinion! I appreciate people who keep it real!

[RachelleDraws]

Things like this are tricky...
Is anyone in your family homophobic? If you don't know, try to find out

[Asker]

My dad kinda is and the rest of my relatives would dread hearing about me being in a same sex relationship and would not accept it. I can guarantee I will have many negative reactions.

[italianboy99]

im from a catholic family myself and my parent where very supportive of me once i came out i was bi. open up to them you never know. if you dont feel comfortable with both parent tell the one you feel more comfortable with. sorey if it was vaque happy ro help if you wanna pm me

[TheOtakuMaid]

people tend to be very lax on doctrine when it affects their family or selves...

a bit funny tbh

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion:) I'm glad it turned out that way for you. But I've already heard my parents talk sh*t about oher family because they are very superficial and judgmental. They dont want my cousin to date a guy they never met simply because he has tattoos, therefore assume he's some sort of drug addict🙄 I had some hope that i could tell them but its just because i sometimes forget how ruthless they can be:/ thanks for sharing tho!

[TheOtakuMaid]

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[Anonymous]

If you have to live in the closest then maybe they're not the right one for you.
I hope you find someone you can be with proudly

[Asker]

Yeah, she deserves to be with someone who she can be with proudly. Thanks for you lr opinion:)

[Keiner]

Well, it doesn't matter to me if it's 2017 or 2117. I don't want to respect you or your sexual orientation, so stop asking me for something I don't want to.

[Shimy]

Don't answer the question then, you're not forced to

[Keiner]

@Shimy that's right, I'm not. But I chose to 😉

[Asker]

Lol. Wasn't asking you specifically, not everything is about you hun. But you do you boo. Have a nice day:)

[BronzedAdonis]

is this a soap opera?