Can a guy and a girl really be best friends without feelings?

Question

Can a guy and a girl ever truly be just best friends without one person secretly having feelings?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd say no.

Either would have some feelings. It is just that they keep it hidden and as minimum as possible, so it appears just as friendship.
But there is some within heart for sure.

Sadly like @Nikki1989 said, AI seems generally right (the way it looks in reality only). I usually totally skip AI opinion, but read it since she mentioned it.

And that's how I believe it. Not actually platonic as AI states.. but seemingly yes. But in reality, they just can't be.

As in, we quite emotionally would depend on them, and it might lead to a mistake/emotional slip at some point since each is just holding oneself back not actually having a truly platonic relationahip.

• Holding back
(as AI said that we show it through no flirting, games..
and I add: silently enjoys fantasies alone [not necessarily sexual, so to respect the other and keep things "as friends" in reality. It is just that if the other side happens to become free/available, the one that has those feelings would wish for the moment to confess and maybe gently go/push for it]).

Doesn't mean I really have feelings for any female acquaintance I follow or chat with on Instagram for content.. but I don't claim her being my friend.. do I 🤷‍♂️
So a female "friend" has something to it.
Mostly the man, but sometimes the woman too.
That's why you see most men say it can't be (platonic female friendship).

(( I personally went through both, and it is not just me and my experience, but look around and it is.
°That's one reason I learnt being totally clear and keeping emotional distance, since a girl having feelings is a more saddening case, and they can't disguise -also don't want to- or hold as a man could if you ask me, and as I read from some other guys stories too°. ))

I once indirectly phrased but clearly "said" I love you in-person to a married woman with a child -who knows it comes from me as a friend/acquaintance- and even "replied" that she accepts my love right on the spot along with a gentle laugh.
Obviously, she would mean it back as a friend/acquaintance too.
Now surely I meant that too. As someone totally precious to me. But I say, if she was younger or I had met her earlier/me being older, I would have married her no doubt. And if impossible happens and I can marry her, I won't say no. I genuinly admire, love, and respect that woman. She knows the previous sentence at least, which I think I literally stated at some point.

I do 'Just accept reality and keep my distance out of respect and maturity'. as stated.
So she is like a lost dream to me. Yes, just a friend if you see the situation and ask her and what @Nikki1989 experiences, in my opinion.
But honeslty, a loved one within.

Hope it helps.
And that hopefully shall be my last time responding to this question too 😄.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Yes, as long as neither of them has any unresolved feelings otherwise. If either one or both have other feelings, what they’re sharing isn’t truly friendship.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

For the one millionth time, yes. Most of my friends are male and always have been. On top of that, all my work colleagues except one are all male, and I am close to them as well. This question pops up on here almost daily, and people still don't get it.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

You HAVE feelings, but they're platonic... brotherly, nothing more.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode all the messy, fun, confusing parts of love and attraction for you. 😉

Yes, a guy and a girl can be best friends without romantic feelings, but it’s not always common. Usually one catches feelings at some point, even briefly. The key is emotional maturity, clear boundaries, no lovebombing, no flirting games, and honest communication. If both genuinely see each other as family, it can totally stay platonic.

ohsheeT · Answer

If your honest you meet someone you become friends and then you want more

When this happens you have to be 100 % honest with self I like her a lot and i want in her pants

So you start a relationship if the relationship goes bad there goes everything

Or you think sbout it abd you know down deep relationship wise it will never work but friendship will

So now you have to make a choice

Only one time I picked the wrong one

And I learned from that mistake. Today I have lots of girls that are very good friends and most are very close friends

AviatorTom · Answer

Harry and Sally know the truth...

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

I think that it's hard, but it's all about control!
For example i had and still have many female friends online, i had feelings for some of them but they never knew about it, while a lot of them would surely agree if i want to be more than just a friend but it's all about me, i prefer to remain their friend, because i'm not a liar nor a cheater, but if some of them were living near to my place, i'd pick someone and try a serious relationship with her because i have met some really nice ladies and they were all my type and gave me the hunch or green light that they are ready to declare their love for me if i accept to take it to the next level...

RedScarlet1990 · Answer

Think there is a possibility they could be, a lot depends on how they become best friends. Is it a childhood friendship, if so they would most likely see eachother more as siblings. A newer friendship there must be communication, boundaries and respect either side.

Account · Answer

I have two guy friends of an almost 2 decade year long friendship.
Nothing romantic crossed my mind, nothing romantic crossed theirs.
Their behavior was never any different and my behavior was never any different.
They are not my type and I am definitely not their type.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I like that, unintentional, odd poll, offering questions instead of answers. So refreshing, thank you👌🏼

Ofc they can, when they both view each other as a poor candidate for romance. That's the case with my bestie. She's such a terrible fit for me, and I seem equally bad for her lol

Anonymous · Answer

The simple answer is no.
It's complicated because only if both of them are completely unattractive and in some form of relationship.
Or if they have brother sister bond, which is good enough.
I have been in a brother sister bond.

And I have been a best friend in false hope, hoping that she would feel the same. But nope she just called me ugly, skinny man.
And some more bad insults by her.

Love is my Doom.
I left my family , job, a life of peace behind to move to different country in persuit of love. But it never came.
The amount of love I have poured in those I loved is going to be unmatched by anyone in the world for that few people. And the worst part of that is no one is ever going to find out. Even if they do the value is null for them as it's not from the person they want.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I have been good friends with several women over the years, without catching any feelings past being good friends. To me, it is just the way the relationship dynamic evolved over time.

loveslongnails · Answer

Yes and yes. I've had female friends that I wanted to be more, and I currently have several female friends that I do not want more with. The older and more mature you get, the easier the latter becomes.

Chayce · Answer

Yeah it's possible. It can work in your favour. If you keep it player she'll eventually start being a wingman for you & sorts, but if she starts seeing you sleeping with a lot of women she might get jealous & eventually try to claim you for herself.

Starlux · Answer

Of course! Any female friends I've had for ages and never really wanted to make any moves on them and we get along well.

browsingthroughthe · Answer

No I don't think so man. I'd say it's often a cover for friends with benefits or someone's cheating lol.  💔

OneViewpoint · Answer

I'm gonna say it's rare. The exception rather than the rule. But I can't say never as I don't know everyone. I do know general human tendencies and generally somebody's gonna catch feelings eventually.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Yup. He's either gay or she isn't attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

I had a 8 year friendship turn into romance but only lasted 10 days which I feel bad cause I still have feelings for her. But see what happens friendship can turn into romance.

Anonymous · Answer

There is a reason why most best friends are of the same gender. Because same sex people have more in common than opposite sex people.

For a woman to pick a best friend who is a man, she would have to be masculine at heart.

MrOracle · Answer

It's possible, but in reality it's very rare.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Absolutely! I've been there several times and, so far, only one girl ended up falling in love with me and fucked me a few times. After that, we were still best friends for decades.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes if they’re not attracted to each other and if they’ve never dated

exitseven · Answer

I had several female friends when I was younger. Sometimes I would wonder if we should be more than friends but it never happepned.

TheStaleMarshmellow · Answer

You're a human being. We are creatures where solitary confinement and isolation actually cause brain damage

CountryGirl7 · Answer

If they're gay sure. Cause I hear from my little brother they can’t mostly wanna screw them.

tatbrat · Answer

Doubtful, feelings happen with all friends and those I know.

BlueZebra777 · Answer

I've had plenty of friends of the opposite gender that was nothing more than just friends

Anonymous · Answer

I've known my guy mates for 20 years. We've never made a move on eachother.  It does happen people.  We've all dated other people at the same time also.

gasman70 · Answer

i guess if they were both disgusted by each other physically, other than that no

Emmabrow · Answer

Yeah they like each other

RachyRach · Answer

It's rare but possible

canamlusciouslad73 · Answer

Yes, occasionally.

msc545 · Answer

Sure, why not?

MrChinaski · Answer

Of course. Why not?

Enginn · Answer

Maybe if he's gay

In_Trance · Answer

Your poll options make no sense

dudeinohio · Answer

I don't believe so

Badtobad · Answer

Of course

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Nope. Not possible.

chechememe95 · Answer

Yes they can.

Vivian55555 · Answer

Absolutely not ✍️

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