It's now her making me wait a year, I guess this is fair right?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend of 5 years originally broke up in August 2023. I realized late how much she meant to me and don't want to mess it again. This is the last chance she's giving but it's now her that's requesting couple counseling and to take things slowly for this whole year, then base on how things go, I can propose again. Yes I've already did in October and she declined.

She's good friends with my sister. According to my sister, she's still hurt and wants to know if I really want her, if I've indeed changed or I was just trying to get her back. She's still hurt about everything. Then if things work out in less than a year, she'll let me know too.

Meanwhile I want to badly propose again, make her hurt go away, wish she would say yes to me. I would do it right now but she won't accept it. She's the one that wants to take things slowly this time. After wasting her time, I guess it's fair right?

Updates

3 mo

I still have the ring. Any time she wants, I'll propose again. Now it's me pining for her. I wish she would say yes to me. It hurts to be declined.

[Hawkes_Lady]

If you love her, then you will work to prove that you've changed and make her feel secure in that knowledge and then she will accept your proposal.

[Asker]

I have to admit it did hurt having my first proposal declined. Then again, it was deserved. I hurt her by making her wait too much at the time. Part of me wishes to turn back time and propose earlier.

[Akam93]

It's been 5 years and she's still saying no. Fuck that move on. Your wasting your time.

[Asker]

It was really my fault. I deserved that declined proposal. I took her for granted for too long, made her wait too much, failed my promises, was unreliable and she was likely hurting all the time she was wondering why I wouldn't propose. I know what she was feeling. I felt the same thing she felt when she said declined me.

[Anonymous]

I would have been gone so long ago if I was her.

[Asker]

But I did proposed in the end and I'm trying to amend things. I really do want her. I would propose again right now if I knew her answer was yes.

[Asker]

Her ring is ready at any time. It's really up to her now to say yes to me.

[boggboss]

Sure

[boggboss]

Yet its your own fault what are u looking for by asking this

[Asker]

I know it's my fault. I've been trying to amend things since. I have to admit it does hurts to have my proposal declined. It's nice to have her back but I wish she would say yes to me, yes to marrying me. Now I know how she's been feeling for a long time when she was waiting.

[boggboss]

OK...