My girlfriend and I broke up, how can I move on?

[Anonymous]

We had an argument about 6 weeks ago. I’ll admit it was my fault and we haven’t spoken in over a month. I have been feeling terrible about what happened, she asked for some space and I have been giving her that ever since. Her friend told me that she said she wanted to speak to me again at some point but didn’t say when. However, just a few weeks after this my girlfriend blocked me on Snapchat despite saying nothing and neither of us contacting each other in weeks. I know I messed up, I’ve been trying to do everything in my power to make it right. I’ve apologised, have been giving her all the time she needs and have tried to speak to her friend about the situation. If this is her way of moving on then fair enough, it just would’ve been nice to have a proper conversation about everything and get some kind of closure because I didn’t want it to end like this. Like I say, I messed up badly so if I don’t deserve another chance then I understand. I’m just struggling to move on and get back to my normal life without constantly thinking about her, regretting what I did and feeling horrible about everything but I have no idea where to go from here or how to move on. I’d appreciate some advice on how to move along with all of this because I’m really struggling and I have been for the last 6 weeks without being able to have one conversation with her about everything and how much I screwed up.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, breakups are never easy, especially when it's your fault. Here's what I'd suggest:

- Accept there's nothing more you can do. You apologized, gave her space, and she's made it clear by blocking you that she's moving on. As hard as it is, respect her decision.

- Lean on your boys. Hang with friends, play video games, hit the gym - anything to stay busy and keep your mind off her. They'll help cheer you up too.

- Write her a letter saying everything you want to, but don't send it. Get all your emotions out to feel some closure. Then burn or delete it so you can fully let go.

- Delete and get rid of anything that reminds you of her - photos, gifts, old texts. Fresh start your space and mind.

- Throw yourself into your hobbies and interests. Rediscover things you used to enjoy before you dated.

- It'll take time but slowly you'll dwell on her less each day. Stay determined to move forward even when you feel down.

- Most importantly, learn from your mistakes so you don't repeat them in next relationships. Grow from this bro.

Keep your head up - we've all screwed up before. You'll get past this in time, so focus on bettering yourself and healing up okay? Hit me up anytime if an extra ear helps.

[balyai]

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