Its like a love triangle!
She is running after her ex, you are running after her, and her ex is, well - ok I guess itz not really a triangle.
Anywayz give her space. She is really confused right now. If you want to know the truth, she was just using you to get the love and attention she couldn't get from her ex. Like, she was using you to fill in the emptiness.
She probably thought that going out with you would help her forget about her ex, and she would eventually fall in love with you down the road. But that usually fails. And, she finally realized it and decided to leave you. Which, trust me, was the smartest move she did for YOU and for herself.
I know it hurts for you because you seem to really like this girl. But you really have to leave her alone right now. Don't text or call to reassure her of your feelings. Because it won't help her make her final decision. Plus, she will know that when she is lonely, or heartbroken, she can use you again. However, when you do bump into her or see her in person, talk to her, and show her you still care.
It will take time for her to figure out which man she really wants. Hopefully that man will be you, but if its not, at least you didn't waste your time for someone who doesn't really love you.
Just do your thing, and slowly move on. When she finally realizes you are the one she wants to be with, she will contact you. But don't sit around, hoping.
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don't interfere too much or she'll get frustrated. she needs to know she's in control and that you'll give her choices. but if she's the kind that needs a assurance, drop by once in a while to say hi or play the part as a friend. let her see that you care for her, don't do it too deeply, or else you may upset her. hope it helps.
it sounds like she is thinking about giving her ex another chance and wants to let you down easy by being distant. if she gets back with him then move on. until then I suggest being her friend and letting her know that you care and will respect whatever decision she makes.
Honestly I think that you should let her do what she wants. The problem is if you keep asking her things about the relationship she'll get mad and think your too clingy.been there done that.you've handled it well if you only briefly talked about your relationship. In my eyes, what happens with most girls and 99% of the time I see these things coming with my own and other peoples relationships, they all want what they can't have and once they have that thing, they will realize that with you is where it was real and she will come crawling back. That is my guess, I am not saying that will happen for sure, but it happens most of the time. Look at movies how often does it happen? Those things happen everyday, its happened to me multiple times.
Look her ex sounds like an ass. Sit back and enjoy the show. He'll screw it up in no time and you'll be there ready to lean on. Or be a man and tell her how you feel. Don't pressure her into committing into being in a relationship with you just show her how she should be treated. Go all out and show her that her ex isn't worth it and that your much better. She'll eventually fall for you. Or wait and I'm sure her ex will do something to screw it up.
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Unless she can move away from her past, this will be hard on you. Sounds like she still have a lot of emotional baggages with her ex. I would just do your own thing at this point and let her be. She seems like a really confused person. Best of luck!
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