Girlfriend moved out. Any opinions on what I should do?

[Anonymous]

So me and my girlfriend decide she should move out of my place and take a step back been together 2 years and she’s live with me for 1 and a half, but after her moving out she’s decide after only a few days to break it off and is now saying she’s not sure, any opinions on what I should do I love her but just is she messing me about

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3 mo

She didn’t decide, she started not want to do things with me and going out a lot more instead, as something was clearly up I think it’s to do with her family member and me falling out ( I wasn’t in the wrong), but this was say 4months or more ago and she had been off since so we decide she should move out, but we met up lovely meal, walk and then she broke it off but keeps talking to me says she loves me and misses me, emotionally I don’t know where I stand

[PrettyPriya]

If that is what she decided to do, you need to respect that. Is there a reason she said for moving out? I cannot imagine it was for nothing. I think that would help us give better advice. You can use the update box to update the question if you wish.

The biggest thing is that there is some cause for her to want to move out and take a step back as you put it. Whatever that reason is, she needs some space. I would respect her wish and work on your relationship however you can.

She feels like the arrangement was not working out. If she didn't say that she wanted to break up, I would not be that concerned other than improving on whatever the cause was for her moving out.

You can still have a great relationship and work on things. It also doesn't mean she cannot stay with your from time to time. I really think some extra info would be helpful to understand why she moved out.

[Emiliamazing]

As relationships progress, the shiny and wonderful dating experience changes. It would seem that you need to let the relationship go at this point and determine how you feel about her when she is gone. She needs to do the same for you. If you can sort out your differences, that is wonderful, but if that is not how it goes, it's time to reevaluate the type of person you each are looking for. You can either learn from each other or be at odds with each other over different points of views

[Miristheiss]

Nothing.

First, she should have NEVER moved in. Live in different addresses and keep your finances and accounts SEPARATE! Her living with you allows the government to deem this a common law marriage in certain situations and will force alimony payments and will decide the splitting up of assets in the event of a separation.

Don't live with a mate.

As far as dating goes, if she is stepping back then start dating other women and move on. Treat it like she is permanently gone from your life.

She may never come back... just keep dating others. If she does come back one and want the relationship again you can evaluate it at that time and see what you want. (Don't move in together again).

[Anonymous]

Well we can't tell you how you feel man. I know with me it's pretty simple if a person is more of a drag on my life then a positive force I cut them out of it. To me it's that simple. I also wouldn't tolerate this "I miss you" but still act all aloof stuff. But I guess that's easy for a single guy to say lol. Only you can decide if she's worth it. What I would do in your shoes is basically nothing. If another girl came along an wanted to show me more effort than her, well the your old girlfriend's indecisiveness cost her didn't it. But if that didn't happen at least you're not making yourself crazy by her antics.

[Guy13]

Give her space as you two are separating. It will be awhile before things become clearer.

[Anonymous]

She wants the break, give it to her.

Do not chase after her.

Police your place for any of her stuff that she's left behind (don't doubt that she has, it a common ploy, store them safely and neatly and give them to her), and refresh your place, redo the layout and remove anything that reminds you of your Ex.

She is acting as though she has put you on ‘lay away’ and will try get back with you when the current relationship she is in tanks.

Then - Move on with your life -.

[lightbulb27]

Find out what the root issue is, if it's the falling out... what was it about that which was a problem to her. Maybe it's violating core values, maybe she values this other persons opinion... too much, etc..

I'd say communicate to find out what is really going on. Nothing wrong with "post mortem".

[CallmeTheKnight]

If someone wants to be with you, they'll be with you. I don't know what you mean by broke it off. You mean break up right? If she broke up with you, stop talking to her or eventually stop. Because if she loved and missed you so much, she wouldn't have moved out in the first place.

[Anonymous]

There was a most valuable teaching they offered on a website, expressed by the concise saying: She is not yours, it was just your turn.

You stand where the choice is between more suffering, or severing your heart from her since your turn is over.

[soe11]

I am really really sorry for your problems..., I don't know what to advice you, I am sure you know her more than one and half years and before as well.

You both need to see professional councillor.

Living together with girlfriend is must be given and take one another, co-op eachother, and sharing feeling.

I live with my girlfriend together more than three years as well as her mom live with us too, pretty much peace and happiness.

[OddBeMe]

Can I have her number?


Jk. Be practical, logical and open minded. Humans are complex and most of the things you’re fighting about are probably bull shit. So you may get back together after a brief separation. That’s actually a trend.


So be magnanimous, caring, say sorry whenever she bitches. And start dating. See who else is out there. 1) it will make her jealous. 2) you may find someone you fit with better.

[Kinkyhubby]

I would says try to move on and date again. I have never taken back an ex. They are ex's for a reason. If she was going out without, and choose to move out, she is already leaving you, she doesn't want to be around you. Hope it helps.

[Jamie05rhs]

Damn. If the only reason a woman is with you is because she lives with you, then I hate to say it but that sounds like a relationship of convenience to me. She never really loved you. I'm sorry, bro. At least you found out now, though.

[Fuentes]

Yup! He was just a place to stay the whole time lol

[Jamie05rhs]

@Fuentes Quite unfortunate.

[TroyDT2]

Move on. Yes, I always say that, but when someone leaves that is a signal to that it's over. Even if you get back together there will always be the lingering thought that she might bail out again.

[JPresidente]

I would take a break from her and clear your head. Tell her she needs to decide what she wants and where the relationship is going. You do the same. Go no contact for a few days and then reassess.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Bluntly put... I think she just wants to fuck other people.

[jayhams]

Sounds like she lost romantic feelings for you and she can't be honest with herself about it.

[Asker]

Yeah I can kinda see that but just hard to let go when you love someone

[Anonymous]

looks like she fell out of love and you're not her favorite boy anymore.

I advise you to look for a new girl without delay.

Pay attention in what they say and what they do.

[Fuentes]

You let her move in within the 6 months to a the first year, that was the issue bro lol

[KrakenAttackin]

Move on. There's no going back. After you dump her for good you will feel a huge relief.

[Manuel2]

Get another one to move in.
Or better still, the wife and kids

[slatyb]

You should date other women.

[Twalli]

I think she's serious

[In_Trance]

You need a clean break