How to cope with girlfriend moving away?

[Anonymous]

Right now I'm an emotional wreck due to today my girlfriend sent me a text say we need to talk. Turns out she is moving back to her home town, to attend school, and to be with her grandma cause her grandpa isn't doing to good. How can I get over this. Thanks

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We've been together for 8 mos. longest relationship I've had. Plus a good bond

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Text her today asking the main reason for breaking up, and she said the main reason why, is because I don't spend time with her. She works late shifts, while I work days, so of course I can't spend time with her. Plus When I ask her if she wants to do anything she says I gotta work. Also we made plans one night to double date movie night with her best friend and new boyfriend, and her friend didn't want to. Well if her friend didn't want to go then nor would she (you and I could have gone)

[mick25]

Hi there,

I am inclined to agree with AshiefVonell, in that in most cases, long distance just doesn't work. However if you're talking about an hour or two away then that's different. Should this be the case there are considerations that have to be taken into account on both sides however you'll need to cross that bridge if it comes up.

Fact is by the way your post sounds, its as though the relationship must come to an end as a result of your significant other having to move a considerable distance away to look after family. Needless to say this is something that is outside of either of your control. Let me assure you being in a similar situation myself its just not possible. Inevitably without the intention, it will soon come out should you guys continue the relationship long distance, that the frustration as a result of the emotional pain that you will both be feeling will consume the relationship and you two will fight more than you could ever imagine. This will not be as a result of little things here and there, which it will appear to be at first. It will be as a result of the pain and frustration of not seeing each other, as I mentioned earlier.

Yes the situation sucks majorly, but unfortunately its beyond your control and the other persons. All you can do is acknowledge what was between you and accept that circumstances have dictated the fate of you both.

It will be especially hard on you both as there was nothing within the relationship that made you fall apart, it was indeed circumstance.

I am aware that my rambling all this would be something that you would be all too aware of. But I do have a purpose. That purpose is that you really need to take stock in the fact that this would be more difficult for you to accept as it was not an incompatibility between either of you. It has life that has got in the way and dictated terms. It doesn't matter how hard you analyse the situation unfortunately, as it appears it won't change. So in answering your question, "how to cope with girlfriend moving away" it is something that will be all the more difficult than just getting over something like that of a typical breakup.

So being able to cope with it requires you to 100% accept the fact that there is nothing that can be done, take the time to understand this and then make your next moves from there. Knowing thy enemy is the best way to cope with or overcome something. In this case the enemy being the feelings caused by the fact that your girl through no fault of either of you has to move away which is going to place unbelievable amounts of strain on you both and eventually cause the relationship to break down, with lots of pain, anger and emotion associated.

Best bet is to sit down together and discuss it all and then do what needs to be done. Who knows she may be able to move back later and as things were left amicably there is a chance for things to be resumed.

All I can say is I wish you both and the grandma all the best

[AshiefVonell]

I thought you should break up with her cleanly and with a friendly smile and hug. Because honestly you have a good bond and you two lasted a very long time but long distance just won't work.

Women need touch. Everytime a man holds a woman more than 10 seconds a chemical reaction occurs in the brain that creates a bond between her and the man. But asides from the science, There is intimacy in touch that men need as well. And this is impossible to replicate with distance.

I once had a relationship just like this but ended up breaking up because she had cheated on me. It was bad and disgusting argument filled battle. And in the end she felt guilty and I felt hurt. To avoid all that, let her go. So she is free to do whatever she likes without the guilt and without you being hurt. Or the other way around.

[LittleWing]

Just because she's moving away, doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of the relationship. You didn't specify how far away she's moving, but regardless, try to put yourself in her shoes! It's never good when someone you love moves, but she's not doing it to pain you, she's going to help her family. Be happy in that sense. Just know that if you truly love her, this won't be the end for anything! You can take trips to visit her! She can visit you. I know it's hard, but thank heaven we have the technology we do today to be in contact. You can Skype, call, text, anything. :) And if you don't see her for a long time, it'll be a super happy reunion when you do.. She'll realize how much you mean to her when you're gone, and you'll realize what a wonderful girl she's been when she leaves.

[Tristangoldstrom]

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