Girlfriend pulled away and is distant after we moved?

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend of a 8 months both in our 30s are moving to a new city together. She had asked me if I wanted to move in together. I answered yes I would like that idea. The following day she told me she had miss spoke and didn't actually want to move in together. But she was still very happy I was moving to the new city. When we moved she became very cold and distant. Eventually telling me she was no longer ready for a relationship. What just happened?

[Finchie40]

It sounds like she was excited about being in a relationship and moving in with you and settling down but when it actually happened she realized she doesn’t want to settle down anymore , so she is going To take it out on you , like everything is your fault , she can’t accept The fact that she made the wrong decision to begin with , because sadly she is a selfish person that only really Cares about herself , my advice to you man is to kick her
To the curb where she belongs or you will live in misery being with a girl like that , when things don’t go her way , she will point fingers at you instead of Pointing fingers at herself first, so if she is being distant and cold to you , then you are best to tell her to grab her shit and leave if she is going to act that way towards you and that you will be perfectly fine not having her there with you , if she doesn’t want to lose you she might have a change of heart and stay with you , but if she grabs her shit and leaves , let her go

[Flower7]

So are you living together or separately in the new city? It seems like she just got overly excited and spoke too quickly about wanting to move in together. I can’t explain what exactly happened after the move, but I’d guess that she wants a fresh start in her life along with moving to a fresh city.

[Asker]

No we are not living together. The original plan was to get separate places, since we are both super independent. So it really confused me when she asked about moving in together.