Long distance Girlfriend not sure about moving closer?

[Anonymous]

Long distance Girlfriend is very hesitant to move to same city together. We have been in a relationship for 8 month and see each other at least once a month.

[Guy13]

It is time to discover the truth about the other person. Good times ahead !!

[Anonymous]

Is she moving to your city or vice versa?

[Asker]

Both of us are moving to a new city

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe she isn’t quite ready. 8 months together isn’t as long as you may think; like my partner and I just celebrated our 1 year anniversary mid-January and don’t plan to move in together until around summer. I think maybe you feel a bit of urgency because you only see her once a month and ready to be with her more often, but she may not be exactly on that level yet. So unless you’ve already started putting your move-out plan together then just let her know you’re ready when she is and don’t press her about it. If she’s serious she will come around.

[Asker]

To make things clear we're not moving into together we're just trying to move closer to each other.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s fine, but it’s still a big step, uprooting yourself to a new city. Like you may feel good about it but everyone is different, so give her time. If you feel impatient about it for reasons I don’t know; then maybe that’s something to explore