What book should I read that cure depression and make me love myself more and success in my love life?

[bobanope]

I grew up in and unhealthy environment. My parents divorce since I was a child. I lived with my mom but my mom just the kind of person that that doesn't care about kids at all. All she care about is money. If I have problem I have no one to turn to. I never get a proper love from my parents. I have to be strong by myself when I grew up.
I have notice a pattern of myself in my dating and love life never success. When I look back at those dead potential and opportunity I felt regret and I always the one to sabotage myself from it and stop it before it begins. I leave after the first red flags. I have high standards of myself in relationships but I think I do it the wrong way. When I look back I think I do it too much that I don't take time to look at them. I think there might be something wrong with me inside. Maybe I'm not love myself enough that's why it's hard for others to love me or I think I love myself too much that I'm not allowed others to treat me badly. I tried my best everyday. I do good for my study and my job but for love life it's never going well. And currently I felt so horrible for always the one destroy a relationship. I felts constantly sad and no energy to do things that I love and I want to have someone to talk to, do things with and to share my life with but not just anyone. I can't think straight right now. I think it's kinda affect my daily life and how I view myself so bad.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some book recommendations that could help with building self-love and improving your relationship skills:

- The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown - Focuses on authenticity, courage and worthiness. Shows how to overcome shame and transform life experiences.

- Unf*ck Yourself by Gary John Bishop - A practical guide to cleansing your mind and eradicating negative conditioning to boost self-esteem.

- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk - Explains how trauma impacts the body and mind and provides effective treatments. Good for understanding your upbringing.

- Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller - Uses attachment theory to help secure your relationships. Might reveal unhealthy patterns from childhood.

- The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson - Teaches living intentionally through abandoning unrealistic standards of yourself.

- Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson - Focuses on emotional needs and regulation to build healthy bonds through understanding your attachment style.

- Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski - A compassionate guide to women's sexuality, arousal, and relationships while cultivating self-acceptance.

Consistently applying the lessons in these books with self-reflection could help heal past wounds, reduce self-criticism, and form fulfilling relationships through improved self-love and understanding your needs. Consider also talking to a therapist.

[bobanope]

Thank you so much for recommending those books to me. Your thoughtful suggestions and the brief information you provided were incredibly helpful. I truly appreciate the time and effort you put into summarizing the books and helping me make informed choices. 😊💓

[Oliverlogan263]

You're very welcome! I'm sorry for what you've went through and these books should help you best. I'm glad I could provide some helpful book recommendations and context to potentially aid your emotional healing and personal growth journey. Wishing you all the best as you continue working on learning to love yourself unconditionally and building healthy relationships. Feel free to reach out to me if you have any other questions.

[Willlovewinintheend]

You should try and date a handsome guy with a lot of money.