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I’m 41 and I’m still in excellent shape. Reason being I exercise daily and I usually stick to a very healthy diet.

Anyway I became more self conscious about not showing my body off in pics or in public by my mid 30s. I don’t really feel comfortable going shirtless even at a beach/pool.

I do have one shirtless pic showing my abs off but it’s never something I will show a woman right away. I usually will show it once if she shows me a few suggestive pics (I don’t like nudes tbh but it’s nice to see what kind of body she has). Definitely not something I keep on social media though

Anyway I am well aware of the “creep” element guys my age have to watch out for. We got a lot less leeway vs guys in their early 20s on all of this.

But at the same time I’m wondering if I’m sometimes shortchanging myself by keeping an attractive asset I still have hidden. Is there a way to let a woman know about this without looking immature/creepy?

And yes I am well aware how women care about personality, drive, humor, money etc. Don’t need a lecture of on that. But this is one thing that can make me go from a 7 to an 8 on a pure physical attraction scale. But if done wrong it can look very bad.

We worked together for months, I always liked her but never interacted with her or any other coworkers due to my social anxiety. Few weeks ago we had to work together sometimes and she was so sweet and playful. Still we never interacted much beside that.

One day I made a cartoon artwork for her and I was anxious to show her, but when I did she really loved it and I was happy. It was the first time we talked outside of work stuff. I told her that showing her my art was very awkward for me and she said she was really glad I did and she loved it very much.

The next day we weren’t interacting at all. I wanted to talk to her but I was still very anxious and there was no work reason to talk to her. Usually it would have been a normal day cause I never talk to any coworkers unless I have to. Although I wanted to talk to her whole day I never did and it was bothering me. I noticed that we were looking at each other more often then usual and eye contact with her was awkward. I felt she was somewhat moody whole day. I think that she might low key creeped out of me because I drew her and she only pretended to like it.

She is a nicest person I know and I always considered she would like the gesture and she did. But now my cousins say that she was under pressure to pretend to like it.

I do have a crush on her but it was just fine when we never interacted and now I can’t stop thinking of her and worrying that I might creeped her out. I can’t just talk to her because I have extreme social anxiety plus she is my crush. Now I think I made everything incredibly awkward for her.

I feel like the entire situation is stupid like why would she like that some random coworker she almost never talked drew a cartoon of her. So she might have pretended she liked it.

I don’t know what to think. She was always so sweet with me and thought of creeping her out like that just kills me. I probably shouldn’t ever interacted with her it was so much easier…