Was I [27F] being creepy for showing my crush [23F] at work my drawing of her?

[Anonymous]

We worked together for months, I always liked her but never interacted with her or any other coworkers due to my social anxiety. Few weeks ago we had to work together sometimes and she was so sweet and playful. Still we never interacted much beside that.

One day I made a cartoon artwork for her and I was anxious to show her, but when I did she really loved it and I was happy. It was the first time we talked outside of work stuff. I told her that showing her my art was very awkward for me and she said she was really glad I did and she loved it very much.

The next day we weren’t interacting at all. I wanted to talk to her but I was still very anxious and there was no work reason to talk to her. Usually it would have been a normal day cause I never talk to any coworkers unless I have to. Although I wanted to talk to her whole day I never did and it was bothering me. I noticed that we were looking at each other more often then usual and eye contact with her was awkward. I felt she was somewhat moody whole day. I think that she might low key creeped out of me because I drew her and she only pretended to like it.

She is a nicest person I know and I always considered she would like the gesture and she did. But now my cousins say that she was under pressure to pretend to like it.

I do have a crush on her but it was just fine when we never interacted and now I can’t stop thinking of her and worrying that I might creeped her out. I can’t just talk to her because I have extreme social anxiety plus she is my crush. Now I think I made everything incredibly awkward for her.

I feel like the entire situation is stupid like why would she like that some random coworker she almost never talked drew a cartoon of her. So she might have pretended she liked it.

I don’t know what to think. She was always so sweet with me and thought of creeping her out like that just kills me. I probably shouldn’t ever interacted with her it was so much easier…

Was I being creepy for drawing her?

She actually liked it and I just worrying over nothing?

[WindAtMyBack]

She said she loved it and was glad you showed it to her. Your cousin was basically saying she faked it. I don't think she would fake it to the point of acting like she loved it. I think it would seem more unenthusiastic if she was faking it.

Bottom line is that I think she probably really did like it.

The next day might have been awkward because you sent mixed signals. If you just ignored her, she wouldn't know what to think of that. Even if you can't bring yourself to start a conversation, at least try to acknowledge her by saying hi, or even mouthing hi when she looks your way. Completely ignoring her is sending mixed signals.

[Asker]

I thought if that but my cousins always put things in my mind. They were the reason why I was very emotionally drained about this whole situation. Instead of showing her right away I’ve spend a week imagining the worst if I ever showed her this and it was making me uncomfortable with her every day up until the point that I was totally depressed that I can’t show her this and I did it kind of randomly. It was the first time I ever talked to her not about work and she was already done working and was chilling before leaving. I kinda hoped she would leave so I wouldn’t show her this. And sometime later when I thought she left I was going to leave and saw her. I said I want to show something to you but I’m shy about it. She said she wants to see it. And her mind was blown and she really liked it. I said that I was shy to show her and she said she was glad I did and she was kinda bored before I approached her and it cheered her up a bit. The next day we didn’t talk at all and I wanted to say hi but I felt being too clingy so I didn’t say it because I never said hi to her. And whole day I was nervous cause I wanted yo talk but couldn’t because of my anxiety. And I think it would be weird if I randomly start talking to her. My cousins told me she just said she liked it because she was under pressure and that I was psychotic creep for showing her my art and now I’m depressed. But she was always happy to talk to me. She is nice and positive person and she knows I’m shy and she always was so sweet helping me. And once when she helped me a lot she said we’re basically besties. But we never talk when she doesn’t help me. And I think if I start greeting her it would appear clingy.

[WindAtMyBack]

Saying hi is never clingy.

You should have more trust in your intuition. A lot (most?) socially awkward people still have a decent sense of intuition. They might not know how to act on it, but trusting their intuition might make it a little easier.

Watch her body language. You probably understand body language better than you think. Body language is also a lot hard to fake than words.

I know it's easier said than done, but try to have more faith in yourself.

[Guy13]

You are spending way to much time being a FussPot or worry-wart. That Vibe is never attractive so try to be confident in your skills. And, give HER the benefit of the doubt. Consider those “friends” as suspect. Be Confident ‼️ She said she liked it ‼️

[Missgingles]

Dont overthink it. Just talk to her more. Say hi when you walk by. Or say good morning when you come to work. Ask if she needs any help etc

[Asker]

I thought about it. Like logically we always had good time at work when we talked. She never was any bored with me or anything and before I showed her my art I walked to her and said I want to show her something and I said I was shy about it and she said don’t be shy just show me. And she reacted genuinely in my opinion. And I said I was very anxious to show you and she said: “I’m really glad that you did. You’re so cool.” And it’s pretty normal why we never talked the next day, because it’s not like we talked much before unless when we worked together. And that day we just had no work together. So I am feeling I should just try and small talk with her. I see she is kinda social person and she always moody working alone and likes company, one of the reasons why she was so sweet working with me. So I think she is not the one who just hate me for the drawing. But I do have social anxiety and I’m worried if I start talking to her more she might think I’m being clingy. But she also might think like: it’s cool he finally started talking to me and stoped being shy. Like when we work together she kinda playful and whimsical while when others work with me they act like life is hell. And she is just so sweet. But I’m afraid sudden interest in her might scare her.

[Missgingles]

No I think she would be more clear on not liking you then. I think she finds you cute. Seams like it. Maybe try to talk to her more?:)

[Asker]

I don’t know what to think. We never actually talked while not working together but these 2 days after I showed her the art I feel some sort of tension between us. We still not talking and it used to be a normal thing for us but now it’s really awkward. I don’t understand what is happening. I’m feeling very anxious talking to her cause I’m afraid of bothering her and being clingy. And we have a lot of awkward eye contact. Like today she literally looked me in the eyes standing in front of me for 5 seconds and said nothing. Yesterday whenever I saw her I was looking away but sorta smiling and I might feel she knows I have a crush on her. I do not want any romantic relationship with her, I just wanna be friends but I do have a crush on her and just seeing her around makes me smile and I think she sees that. I think she never payed me much attention while we weren’t working together but now I think she is looking at me often like in the eyes and this is very awkward for me. It may sound like she actually wants me to talk to her hm. I don’t know, in your relationship she was always the social one and was actually talking to me. We never talked in halls or when we crossed paths but now it just feels so awkward for me. And I can’t just start talking to her. I don’t know what to think…I think nothing really changed and it’s all in my head and if we will work together again she will be her cute self again.

[Missgingles]

It seams like she has a crush on you. Why dont you wanna be in a relationship with her?

[Asker]

I don’t think she has a crush on me, I dunno I mean I want but I think we’re better as friend

[Missgingles]

Why do you want her to just be a friend?

[Asker]

I never had anyone to like me and I’m afraid to mess it up. And I really don’t think she likes me like that.

[Missgingles]

You only live once. Its worth the risk you deserve it. No relationship is perfect. You work on them. Its teamwork

[Asker]

I’m so awkward around her we always passing by each other and I feel so weird like I want to look at her but look away and I thinks she notices that and I don’t understand what she gets from this. Hopes she doesn’t think at all. Like looking at her is extremely uncomfortable for me, and when she looks at me my brain stood functioning

[Missgingles]

Awww. Thats sweet:) It seams like she likes you. No need to go fast if you aren't ready. What do you usually talk about with her?

[Asker]

Nothing, we never talk, she only helps me with stuff. She is kinda cute when she does

[Missgingles]

Why does she help you with stuff? Do you ask for the help or is she your assistent?

[Asker]

No there is like a system where only peeps with her speciality can do so we need to work with them

[Missgingles]

So she is not your assistent? You ask help thruogh a system and she helps?

[Asker]

I mean I just say: hi can you help me with this abs she yeah sure, and one day I had had asked her a lot to help and she said we’re basically besties. But we never talk like besides these interactions

[Missgingles]

Thats a red flag tho. If she said you are besties. Its kinda friend zoned. But not for sure. Try to make her laugh. Ask what intressts she has. You could try to find her online. And add her.

[Asker]

I mean I don’t wanna date her I want her as my bestie and I’m shy and anxious around her

[Missgingles]

Alright well you can try to find her online. Id you have her name. Or you could show her something cute or funny on Instagram/facebook and that way she will see your username. If she wants to add you she will.

[Asker]

I wanna like show her my art on instagram but I don’t know how. We literally never talked ever since I showed her my art and since then was a lot of awkwardness and it was 5 days already

[Missgingles]

5 days is not long. Show her your art. Or when she comes to help you have it on your phone and put it down with the screen still on so she can check

[Asker]

Update, I do not think she found it weird that I drew her and I really think she might be open to friendship but I’m still so socially awkward and also I think she knows I’m awkward with her and it makes me even more awkward 😭

[Missgingles]

You accidently answered me instead of doing a update. No worries:)

[Asker]

I mean it wasn’t accident, I kinda think you’re the only one who listens hehe

[Missgingles]

Oh okay lol. Well good that she is open fot friendship:)

[Asker]

Today was the first day we interacted after I showed her my art and it was already a week. This week was very awkward and I was actively avoiding her and I think she noticed. When I asked her for help she was extra nice to me. But I also thought she was kinda fakish nice I dunno, but it is a relief we finally talked since I felt she was creeped out and annoyed by me (sorry for replying to you so often)

[Missgingles]

Thats good! Just try to keep talking to her now. And dont apologize for answering I'm the one asking questions:)

[Missgingles]

Thank you for MHO!:)

[Asker]

Hey, I think everything became weird. I can’t stop acting very awkward with her sbd she sees it and bet she’s very confused and I’m too shy to do anything about it and I just feel very uncomfortable and I bet she does too

[Avicenna]

Well, you should stop here and just keep things professional with her. She sounds very nice, but you should not pursue her further so you don't risk your job.

[Asker]

I don’t wanna date her. I wanna be kinda friends and to talk some more. I have social anxiety and she is the only one who I’m happy to talk at work. I do not wish to be in any romantic relationship with her.

[MarkosSPL]

It's only creepy if you make it creepy, try to act natural and confident, stand up straight when you talk to her and make good eye contact, and go on with your day as nothing happened.

[FilmGuy93]

Iit was probably a little bit awkward for her, but I think she generally liked it. Just don't do too much of that kind of thing in the future. Just talk with her, be friendly, don't hyperventilate.

[rabbitzzz]

Gayeuuuuu.

[Asker]

What?

[Anonymous]

Whoa way creepy...