I often connect with women either in person, on dating apps or even on GAG every once in a while. If I think they are attractive I will sometimes throw out flirty hints and sexual humor.
That’s not to say I am only interested in that. I do have genuine interest beyond sex with vast majority of girls I chat with. I really do enjoy talking about life, current events, plans, memories, etc. However when it comes to chatting with a girl I will at times feel urges to flirt or make mild sexual comments.
The issue is whether or not the woman is:
1) physically interested in me to begin
2) in the mood to chat about that.
Most women even while interested usually don’t initiate flirty talk or mentions of sex. It only happens when she is very interested in me and/or really in the mood.
So I feel like I often am walking on egg shells here. Of course I am not going to do or say something over the top creepy like sending an unsolicited D pic. But I like to hint around.
I also feel like that many girls are really not interested but just want the attention. So they will “tolerate” some of my questions/comments. But the moment I go to far and/or say something at the wrong time it’s game over.
On the flip side I can keep it all clean but I’m not being completely honest to myself or her if I act that way either. If I am chatting a girl DM for an extended amount of time there is a 90%+ chance I’m interested in her and possibly meeting up
So what if a guy says something like:
“Hey just a FYI I’m interested in you but I don’t want to come off as a creep. I might make flirty/sexual comments time to time. Are you okay with that? If not I’ll understand. However if you do like that can you be forgiving and communicate if I make a mistake.”
Is that above just “too serious” and putting everything on the spot? I’m not going to apologize for being a man and having sexual thoughts. However I am thoughtful about not wanting to act creepy either.
