Search Results: i lost her for good

Seeking advice. Gonna try to keep this short, but basically I'm asking you ladies to review my circumstances below and my current age and see if I'm screwed on dating or not. Also I'm an introvert so any pointers to help with that is welcome as well.

I've only been in 2 relationships my whole life. First was my 11th grade year. 2nd was while I was in the military. Have not dated since 2014 and still have NEVER had sex.

I left the military in 2015 at age 22. 2015-2018 was just simply me being to myself to heal. 2018-2024, a LOT of things went wrong for me. In that time frame, I was homeless (the entire time), went through bankruptcy, then worked Corrections, lost those jobs and had to heal from new trauma there. Had ZERO support.

October 2024 I get the job I currently have. November 2024 I get an apartment. I'm happy at my job. The job combined with my VA Disability check ensures all my bills are paid and a small bit left over. Got a roof over my head. Still fixing my credit and paying a few debts off, but I feel stable for the first time in my life.

Now, the only thing that feels missing is a good woman at my side. But, I've been in survival mode so long that I'm not sure where to begin.

Please be honest although I'd appreciate it if you weren't rude, I just want to see what the results are and hear some feedback from the female perspective. Essentially the point blank of it is I'm not even close to an appealing partner.

I live off less than $1000 a month before rent if I lost all my spare weight & trimmed my beard, I am MAYBE a 5 out of 10 in looks. I wouldn't say I'm ugly but saying I'm attractive is just pity or comforting flattery and I know it.

I struggle a lot with mental health & depression & have enough baggage from multiple traumatic events to fill a C-130. I'm ADHD, OCD & Bipolar and even on my best days it shows. I'm medicated & in therapy but there's limits in certain cases to how much you can change because a lot of it is chemical because my body chemistry is all messed up.

My brain often bounces between giving me way too much dopamine & not giving me any which makes it hard to keep my emotions stable. Obviously its stressful not just for me but the people who have to see it & I have problems with my speech patterns being too loud on accident even when I try not to and aware of it. I also have a robbery felony from a guy I was lied to about him being an attempted rapist. "Vigilante justice situation but she lied."

The one thing going for me is I try to be a good person & make sure to focus on my partner to make sure I meet their emotional needs not just their physical ones. In the past when I've attempted dating, I've done things like bring flowers made picnic baskets personally to go on a lunch date in the park etc. There have been times where I listened to woman cry comforting them 6 days a week from 10PM-3AM on days I was busy running off 2-4 hours of sleep for literal months.

Basically, I'm average or bellow in every way except for the fact I'll do everything I possibly can to be the best partner I can, stand up for them & make sure they feel truly loved & valued. That's it. That's what I bring to the table. Love and respect.

It was pretty funny but on Sunday i was over at my sisters place watching the Super Bowl and her boyfriend thought i brought good fortune to his team which was Philly. I also recall anytime i went to a game in high school they would win even though they would lose most games in the season.

maybe i got special untapped powers that will sports teams to win. Would be cool 😎

I suffered a shock loss condition at 19, it’s permanent and so I shave the crummy hair that’s left. I get looks matter, I could never date a girl I wasn’t attracted to looks wise either so I’m just looking for honesty.

Could you date a guy your age was bald? Can he still be good looking? Or is it pretty much a turn off all around so young?