Slight vent. But I'm lost, mostly insight or similar experiences please?

[Anonymous]

Same old situation going on, I really fell hard for this guy and we've been casual since November but talking and hanging out since October. Everything has been great minus school is getting really stressful so it's getting harder to find time in between classes we can hang out. But I saw him on a Friday last week and we talked for a bit, then he had to leave because his dad was in town. Now It's going on Thursday and he's acting completely distant and we don't talk nearly as much as we used to. He just seems to be at home, do intermural sports, work, but then late, like 10 pm he goes to a friends house to smoke weed and get's home super early in the morning. By that point he might have not replied to me in 4 hours. The longest was 13 hours and I just can't take the mental anguish for whatever reason it's been eating at me. I know I'm going through some things at home to so that's partially why I think I'm so over the top needy. Cause it's a weird change to always talk to someone and then suddenly they aren't your person anymore.

if you go back on my account I've posted the situation and stuff before hand. Like I said I can do casual but being ignored, is just not my favorite. Yesterday we couldn't hang out cause he was busy and I want to believe he is and nothing else is going on but hell I really don't know. I'm scared of saying something and I loose him and I don't want that at all. I asked him last night if we were good and he said we were fine, Monday night though I had asked if we were on the same page about everything, he said he thinks so then asked me if I was. So we still are exclusive on that mark, again as far as I know. He's given me no reason to believe he's doing anything bad, but it's just not the same guy I genuinely did like. But Everyone has noticed to that he's been on one and so maybe it is just stress.

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To add, him and I do hangout but just haven't since Friday and after work last Thursday he said he liked me and stuff, not going into full detail.
But my sister to has noticed that he always gives signals like he's interested but then it's his weird mood shifts.
I'm also not sure if it could be possible but every time I'm at his place, like this last time, we were cuddling and sleeping and my mom had called, pissed I wasn't home, and it's only when we hang out that seems to happen.

[Kiaros21]

I understand. I had a couple guys who will gove mixed signals. All you gotta do is ask him how he really feels. Amd if he can't give a good ans. Just leave him until he knows what he wants. Don't be too clingy you will only be seen as desperate. As the previous commenter say. It's mismatched expectations. So don't expect anything and just live in the moment.

[Asker]

I appreciate that answer, thank you! We did talk last night, not necessarily this stuff but just in general and he seems to be in a better mood, but I still just worry there is another chick, so it's hard to live in the moment all the sudden 😅

[AI Opinion]

Hey, lovebird! 🕊️ Trust me, I get it—when those love vibes start acting mysterious, it can drive anyone nuts! You're juggling between wanting to keep things light and drowning in the ambiguity. This might be a classic case of mismatched expectations. If he's become distant, it's possible life stresses are taking a toll on him, just as they are on you. Staying open about how you feel without sounding accusatory might be key here. But always remember, nobody likes a love story where one person does all the work. Ghosting is not cool, and you deserve someone who respects your time and feelings. Hang in there and maybe have a heart-to-heart with him when you're both calm. 💖