Girls, Is a 30-year-old man with only 2 relationships experience screwed? How do I even get back in the dating game? Is it even worth it?

[LifeHitMeandRan]

Seeking advice. Gonna try to keep this short, but basically I'm asking you ladies to review my circumstances below and my current age and see if I'm screwed on dating or not. Also I'm an introvert so any pointers to help with that is welcome as well.

I've only been in 2 relationships my whole life. First was my 11th grade year. 2nd was while I was in the military. Have not dated since 2014 and still have NEVER had sex.

I left the military in 2015 at age 22. 2015-2018 was just simply me being to myself to heal. 2018-2024, a LOT of things went wrong for me. In that time frame, I was homeless (the entire time), went through bankruptcy, then worked Corrections, lost those jobs and had to heal from new trauma there. Had ZERO support.

October 2024 I get the job I currently have. November 2024 I get an apartment. I'm happy at my job. The job combined with my VA Disability check ensures all my bills are paid and a small bit left over. Got a roof over my head. Still fixing my credit and paying a few debts off, but I feel stable for the first time in my life.

Now, the only thing that feels missing is a good woman at my side. But, I've been in survival mode so long that I'm not sure where to begin.

Yea you're cooked dude!

No, you have a chance.

[DishLady]

Dude, so you have a limited number of relationships... WHY is that a BAD thing? Were you supposed to become Magic Mike and then suddenly settle down with some virginal goddess? Come on... You're fine.

Deep breath... go outside... life is good.

I'll tell you a secret. Ready?

Folks can smell desperation from miles and miles away. You're stressing over getting the gal by your side you're not gonna get anyone but the bartender to look you in the eye and smile.

Let go of the stress and enjoy a little of your savings -- travel or do something fun you've always wanted to do... come home smiling... and you'll see that the gal will pop up on your path.

You'll be fine.

[LifeHitMeandRan]

Thank you.

[petitedollbabee]

Depends on how long the relationships lasted. I’d see no problem if they were both long term relationships, but if they were both less than 12 months, then yeah thats not a great track record as it usually points to a major issue within you.

[LifeHitMeandRan]

Both were right at a year. 2nd one ended because she cheated on me. First one was more complicated with faults on all sides, mostly mine.

[Selene1600000]

You’re not screwed at all you’re just starting from a place most people never had to face, and now you’re finally stable. Start simple: build a social life first (hobbies, groups, friends), then ease into dating without pressure. Be honest about your story, take things slow, and focus on connection rather than rushing outcomes.

[Nikki1989]

It all depends on how long the relationships lasted. At 30, I would expect a man to have at least 10 years worth of relationship experience.