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Girls, how much of a turn off is a 30 year old guy who has no experience with no dating experience?
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You've missed the forest for the trees here- why would a woman date you? It's about a lot more than your experience as a partner. What makes you interesting and fun to be around? That is the case for dating you.
Look at the poll results, women are choosing no experience being a turn off. All of those other things that you describe go completely out the window and the inexperienced guy gets written off once she finds out he has no experience and there’s plenty examples of that happening.
Well, if that is all she knows about some random generic guy, sure it's a problem, but here's the thing- experience can be obtained, and even experience isn't everything- passion and enthusiasm, good communication, pleasing your partner are all very important.
Again, what is she going to be doing with you when she spends her time with you? Take dance lessons, learn a musical instrument or another language. Take up a new sport.
Yeah I know it isn’t everything, but when you’re dating or doing almost anything else, having experience in that holds a certain level of importance. A commercial airline wouldn’t hire an inexperienced mechanic to work on their airplanes, they would want an experienced one. Similar principles apply here.
I will say that it seems the later she finds out about the lack of experience, the better since she will have gotten to know you more and there’s more of a chance she would be willing to look past it, who knows how early the topic of past relationships and dating history would be brought up though.
You can't control what a woman thinks or expects, but you can control how confidently you present yourself.
I’m not sure if confidence overrides inexperience though. And its really hard to feel confident when you don’t have any previous success to feel confident from. I have no failures either, but I’ve felt that I have no chance for success due to my inexperience.
All of us who are experienced were at one time inexperienced. You can wring your hands and look for excuses or you can get out there and get some more experience.
I was a 35yr old virgin. In my experience I'd have found it difficult pursuing someone who was in a similar boat without experience.
The women I've been invovled with were early 30's - 40's. They have more developed emotional intelligence. If you find someone who's worth your time it won't matter. They will give you the time to work through things at your pace.
Well so far the majority of women in the poll have said that it definitely is a turn off.
3 anonymous people isn't really a good sample to take an opinion from
Yeah maybe that’s true, but I do feel like the majority of women find this to be a turn off. How did you overcome this, especially if you were asked about past relationships and dating history?
I wouldn't jump into a conversation about it. It'll come up naturally on forst or second date. Just be honest and direct. It is what it is, they're either going to support you or not.
Do you know why you've not got experience? Is there something that's been holding you back?
Yeah I know why it all started in the first place. But now the lack of experience in and of itself is holding me back because I’m holding on to the belief that I’m now in a catch-22 inescapable situation where I’m gonna go out on dates and be guaranteed rejection because I’m inexperienced, an infinite loop of rejection basically and I have a feeling that’s the only dating outcome for me at this point. If it comes up, I was thinking of just refusing to talk about my past at that point in time. Would that work or just make them more curious about why I’m unwilling to tell them anything?
Personally I don't think avoiding the past is best. It'll make it seem like you have something to hide. You have to be prepared to be vulnerable. You may get rejected, but that's part of the dating game.
you're fine. just find a nice 18 year old at starbucks near a university
That’s a 12 year age gap and the reason why girls that young like guys my age is because they have experience. Finding out that I have less experience than they do would make all of them run away.
girls that age are more likely to be virgins themselves. they're also looking for virgin guys
Lol no 18 year old girls are virgins these days and I’m not either. I haven’t had a lot of sex, but I’m not a virgin and like I said, they expect 30 year old guys to be amazing in bed since the biggest selling point to them is the higher level of experience. A 30 year old inexperienced guy would freak them out.
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