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My girlfriend Amber doesn’t let me see her naked anymore, but let’s everyone else see her naked. For example, she walks around naked at night in her living with lights on. Not caring that people outside can see her. The moment I come upstairs she rushes to put on a towel so I don’t see her naked. When she goes swimming with her friend Sadie she changes at Sadie’s house with the door open….. letting everyone see her fully nude. Sadie’s husband and son make jokes about it when when they’re get drunk.

My and Amber have been together for 2 years. We’ve struggled with our sexuality for most of the time. I’ve been on this site before discussing our issues. She never wants sex and dick teases me to only give it up once a month. She always flashes her breasts at me and says “I’m the hottest woman you’ll ever see, and you’re getting none”. I tried to sit down and talk to her about our sex life and how I don’t like how she’s dick teasing me. She got so angry that she broke up with me.

We got back together soon after. When we got back together she said “if you think I’m dick teasing then you won’t see me naked ever”.

So now I’m in a sexless relationship and I never see her naked. I’m emotionally attached to Amber and I’m really attracted to her. It’s hard to leave her. I feel like she’s the best I’ll ever get. It’s gonna near impossible for me to find a new girlfriend at this point. I live with my parents at nearly 35, I only make $24/hour, I’m 5k in debt, and I don’t have any intelligence.

Amber really wants to get married. She told me if I don’t purpose to her by fall she’s going leave me for good. I know I can’t marry Amber but I’m terrified of loosing her. I don’t want anyone else but her. I tried dating other women due our break up and I was still thinking about Amber. These women weren’t really into me. They just liked me for my dick size.

Of all the men and women you've known in life: friends, partners, family members etc who tend to be better listeners?

Here's some advice on how to be a better listener:

"Show You Are Listening

Part of really listening is responding in a way that shows the other person we are paying attention. We can demonstrate we are truly listening in four different ways. For example, if a coworker comes to you and complains about their micromanaging boss, you could show you are listening by:

Reflecting back the content
Example: As you see it, your boss is micromanaging you…

Reflecting back the feeling
Example: So you feel frustrated because…

Reflecting both content and feeling
Example: You feel frustrated because your boss is micromanaging you…

Being silent and attentive
A helpful phrase to show you are listening might be:

So you feel ___________________ because ______________________.

Other helpful phrases might include:

You seem…
You sound…
What I’m hearing is…
As you see it…
Tell me more…
Is there anything else…
Not only is listening to others a key life skill, it can also have a tremendous impact on building trust in a relationship. When we take the time to listen, we show the other person that we care—that we are interested in understanding their perspective. That can go a long way toward building, or rebuilding, a relationship.

“The purpose of life is to listen – to yourself, to your neighbor, to your world and to God and, when the time comes, to respond in as helpful a way as you can find … from within and without.” ~ Fred Rogers