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We had been flirt for a few months and have been dating for 2 months. A few days ago he came to me we had sex for the 3rd time his penis was down after 10 min sex and had difficulty getting hard etc. but we were fine when we left he said baby we will handle this etc. we kissed and hugged. The next day at work he was acting weird I saw him with the girl I see him a lot lately. I was upset and ignoring his attention. When I asked him you flirting with other girls in front of my eyes? he said she is married woman with a child you know that right and he looked at me I was acting werid. Normally we text each other when we leave work he would drop me off at home sometimes even though I went to the department he worked at he didn’t pay any attention I saw he had closed everywhere he was done leaving. Anyway I went out while waiting for a taxi he texted did you go out I said yes and he replied I went out just fine I just wrote but I saw him go 10 minutes before I left. He didn’t text I don’t know what he waited for. He said he was invited somewhere for Halloween that day and he said he was extremely tired did he go there I don’t know either. Anyway in morning I texted good morning honey how are you and he texted I am at work still tired etc. we talked very briefly. After couple hours he first posted a wise saying about ego on his Instagram story, then he posted a reel of a man eating pizza on a mountain at sunset, it says looking forr people to do this activity with. There is an app we use for couples, he changed his mood to ‘sad’. I don't understand what is his problem?

So I was kicked out of a group for exposing a man and people felt that I was “bitter” and called me “crazy” for speaking my truth on this man. It was a very invalidating experience.

Let me be clear on why I’m exposing him…

1. He did not respect my boundaries when it came to having sex and ended trying to use manipulation. I made it clear to him before we exchanged numbers that I wasn’t in a space to have sex or be in a relationship. He kind of wanted to know why etc and he wasn’t pushy.. but he said things he felt I NEEDED to hear… and at first I’m thinking wow maybe he is genuine and understanding. Looking back it was hard to see his “coercive behavior…” to get what he wanted and wanted to gain my trust. Even saying how can I make you feel safe

2. Subtle changes in behavior after telling him that I wanted to take things slow with him and gaslighting.. I did end up liking him and when I said that… that’s when it started taking hours for him to respond and then it went to days… only to get a “sorry really busy”…. But it kept happening and I confronted him and he tried to say that I needed to “heal”….. but it was strange behavior coming from a man who was trying to make me feel “safe” initially…

3. Disrespect… (devalue/discard) everything was cool on the date at first but then he became disrespectful and rude… he started asking when I last had sex, dildos, negging behavior and some insults.

4. Not being honest about his real name even on the date.. I asked him if “Craig” was his real name and he said yes… I get you want to protect yourself but he really did not want to tell me his name and seemed annoyed when I asked. It was very fishy

5. After the “date” i tried finding a “gf”…. Bc i felt like he was talking to someone.. he has no social media presence and keeps things private

6. He is possibly bisexual or closeted based on some things I found