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I'm starting a career hopefully in the coming year as after I visit my long distance girlfriend with my vacation time which took me 2 years to get, I intend to send in my application to the academy. I'll be seeing her in August but the application review could take a long time before they accept me and put me into an academy class.

I wanted to move out earlier but rent has gone up literally 5 fold and I can't even come close to being able to afford my own place now and it's only getting worse, so for at least a few more years, I'm stuck living with my parents still.

My parents have never been happy together throughout my life and they've had domestic disputes before, some of which my dad broke items in the house. Since they made 2 friends, they've been going out literally every night and getting shithoused at the bar. Then they'd come home separately and have a drunken argument that's about as intelligent as you can expect from two people in their 50s with the maturity of toddlers.

My dad at one point spent over $3,000 in alcohol in one night and then that same night spent another $2,000 at a strip club. Yes, a strip club and came home giggling as if he'd done nothing wrong. My dad sometimes purposefully causes conflict because he wants to feel in control, it's not uncommon for him to drop the N word and once said it literally over 100 times in one night, which is ironic seeing as how he's black.

They've acted so childish and stupid that it's become hilarious to me and my girlfriend when I tell her about their behavior, also holding it up as a perfect example of how me and her are not. I sometimes joke to her that at least they're presenting a perfect example of how not to have a happy relationship.

Do you ever laugh at your parents arguing?

I've been an introvert for as long as I can remember, I've always kept to myself and often view the "popular crowd" very negatively, often seeing them as nothing more than immature entitled brats who will get nowhere when their parent's money runs out.

While that is most definitely a harsh characterization, it is an experience I've had frequently with those who consider themselves extroverts. I also find that these people are often real life examples of the Dunning-Krueger effect in that they're supremely confident that they know everything while simultaneously knowing absolutely nothing, which explains why these people are so liberal and dogmatic in their viewpoints.

For these reasons, I don't think it could ever work with an extrovert, although my first girlfriend was a conservative extrovert as they apparently exist, however she ended up sorta not really cheating on me. She ghosted me after being official for 6 months and reappeared only when I begged someone who knew her for an explanation and she'd gone with someone else as she then told me.

I've become much more assertive in the past year but still remain an introvert, not liking big crowds and rarely enjoying small talk unless it's with my current girlfriend who I've been with for the past 2 years following the fiasco that my ex created above. I see most extroverts as people who simply follow the herd, not taking a single moment to question what they're being told, or not being capable of thinking for themselves. Of course that isn't true for all of them but it is in my experience for most of them.

My girlfriend has become more assertive as well, not afraid to present an opposing argument and won't nod her head simply to avoid a debate. I'm the same way and the idea of nodding my head in agreement or staying quiet when I have an opposing opinion is a crazy idea to me. Me and my girlfriend are doing great and I couldn't be happier with her☺️
Do you date introverts or extroverts?