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I'm pretty sure most of you have, especially the girls. I'm not judging though. I've done this too, and I think it's only natural to try to move up if you have an opportunity. It doesn't have to be something like letting a guy buy you a house. It could be like letting him/her buy you dinner, getting attention/compliments, getting help on a homework assignment, etc. Do I think someone can take it too far? Absolutely. Please do speak about your experiences.

I know someone could be doing this out of the goodness of their heart but let's be real, most of the scenarios where someone is helping someone attractive, it's because of something to gain, but usually the person who is getting the help first is the winner because that's guaranteed and the other party just has a hope or expectation. And usually the attractive person is well aware of this although many people don't like to admit it. This question is actually asking about situations where you're well aware by the way.

Me and my girlfriend have been official since November of 2021. We started talking May 30th, 2021. I already knew her before because we used to be co workers and i have had her on social media for years but she always had a boyfriend so never really talked to her like that, I always had small crush on her.

About a month that passes by and at this point I probably hung out with her about 8-10 times. She invites me over to her new place for a little get together with friends to celebrate her new spot, everything seems normal but then another guy walks in the house and her mood sorta switches on the spot. At this point she dosen't pay much attention to me and just sorta haves me there looking stupid. I start to get jealous because this guy was making small comments to her that make it seem like he was trying to flirt with her. I start to get upset and I tell her im leaving. I was expecting her to ask me to stay over like she did the night before but she didn't. The whole night after I left i couldn't stop thinking that she's probably going to sleep with that guy but I just let it go.

Fast forward about 4 months and things are getting more serious. I decide to ask her about that night and she denies that she did anything it for a few days then one day she said "Okay, we just kissed but that was it" She started begging me so i giver her another chance. I don't believe her but i just let it go.

Another 2 moths or so pass by and we are now official. It is around November now and I ask her again, i make it seem like someone told me and I ask her again? She starts crying and she says YES. My heart literally sank. Ever since then we have fought dozens of times, we are still together but I just can't forget that night. That is the root of all the problems we now have, it has gotten mentally draining , We have gotten cops called on us because of how bad it gets when we argue. I know we weren't official but the way she did it just bothers me.

My opinion is that whether you are white or black and you get involved with a criminal that kills kids with drugs by selling drugs , shoots at a cop , you deserve getting shot in the head.

1) It was a legal warrant
2) She goes out in hall like an idiot (if she stays in room , she is alive)
3) She shouldn't be with a guy like that anyway.
4) She was stupid and apparently had no morals and that gets you killed every time.

Black community tries to make heroes our of zeros. They don;t have very many good examples of people to put up as someone to look up to. MLK is the best they have. They try drug using rappers and anyone that committed crimes and were killed by cops.

You also can't blame cops that used a legal warrant and were shot at first to shoot back.