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Most people living in western counties would say hell no to this (for the most part me included).

But in other parts of the world there are arranged marriages where love is supposed to come later. Even back in 1800s and earlier people would often get married through community arrangements. One family knew another and the parents thought that their sons and daughters would make a good match. Even the ancient Spartans had this weird marriage ritual where they put young men and women together in a dark cave. Whoever opposite gender you grabbed first and walked out with into the light would become your spouse.

I have to wonder how often people ended up with someone they weren’t attracted to. However divorces were way less common many years ago. If so many people were really that miserable with their arranged marriage you would have to think there would be some serious mental health issues and more violence back then. But at least historically this wasn’t the case.

The whole premise of this website is to ask the opposite gender about dating and relationship questions. Given we are anonymous it’s easier to ask questions and get responses without worry about losing face.

And yet I find that most women I talk to do NOT often give good dating advice. I feel that they usually respond to “protect the team” i. e. tell me what to do which is in best interest to another random woman vs. really trying to understand my POV.

For what it’s worth it’s extremely difficult to think and understand the opposite gender. But I don’t always respond to “protect some other guy” depending on the circumstance a woman is going through and asking about.

Sometimes i see women talking about emotionally abusive relationships and encourage them to get tough and draw the line. They struggle because they have feelings which are compromising their judgment (can be true on the man’s side as well). But I don’t like seeing dbag guys get away with that crap. I sure as hell won’t tell the girl to keep enabling them.

But I feel that most women on here (and in general) always give the other woman the benefit of the doubt when they are giving advice to guys. Guys aren’t looking for the answer they want to hear on here. They want the truth so when we ask questions we rarely embellish our circumstances.

Anyway when I am dealing with tough dating situations I find that other men usually give better advice then women. Reason being they are feeling emotions I am feeling so they can look at issue more clear headed. It might be not what I want to hear. But what I NEED to hear. That is what matters.