I am aware of guys - and girls - who eventually start having feelings for their female friends, and I get it. But I am not attracted to my very close female friend like that. In the beginning when she and I first started getting to know each other, I did sort of have feelings, but over time that changed the more I got to know her. Plus I had started getting involved with another girl (my now ex) and whatever romantic feelings I had for my friend just disappeared, and stayed that way. People are always asking me if we're dating, or pressuring me to get into a relationship with her, and this not only comes from guys but from other women as well. And when I tell them I'm just not into her like that, they'll try to tell me "You'll miss your chance," or "Okay, but if she starts dating somebody for real you're going to regret it." I won't.
She is a great person as a friend and we see eye to eye on many things, but as far as a relationship goes she simply does not have all the values I look for in a woman for that. She is an attractive girl and lots of guys want her, but looks are not enough for me.
Does a man have to date his close female friend just because she's single and attractive, or because as a guy I have "all this access" to her that others don't?
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No definitely not. You are one of the rare ones where you stay true to the friendship by staying friends. It's scarce these days I feel like to have a real friendship between a man a woman. The people in your life who are trying to convince you to date her are the type of people who don't stay true to their word. What's wrong with staying friends? Why do we have to date everyone we interact with? I bet your friend really enjoys the friendship you guys have and she's probably fine staying friends. I'm pretty sure you would know if she wanted to date if she was like flirting with you. I saw keeping ignoring those thirsty people and keep enjoying your friendship.
In tv shows, they'll sometimes ruin it by making these two characters that were great as friends and then they ship them to please the fan base that wants them together. It almost seems impossible for characters to just stay friends. Though, I feel like Elementary did it good. I don't think they ever dated, Sherlock and Watson. Them dating wouldn't be true to the overall idea of Sherlock Holmes. You know how people are lol they like to change things but I'm glad they didn't in Elementary. I honestly think that's a miracle lol.
I think it's normal to like your friend. Especially if you get along really well. Makes sense that you would eventually develop feelings. That's how long lasting marriages start... I'm pretty sure?
I didn't have a lot of male friends growing up. I only had one when I was a teenager, he was an Xbox friend that's lived in a different state so I never met him. But I guess he ended up developing feelings for me and well I didn't feel the same. That shattered our friendship and I remember he was really upset. I feel bad that it happened that way. But what can I do you know? Can't force feelings that aren't there.
Is that a picture of you and her? Dang you guys could be models, you should probably try looking into that.
Oops I see a typo, just when you think you proofread it enough...
I say keep ignoring those thirsty people*
Lol. No that's not us but sort of similar, that's why I picked it.