Can your girlfriend have male friends and hang out with them alone?

[Anonymous]

[Sonorous]

I don't have a general answer. Ultimately, it's her choice. But depending on the vibes I get from them. I might not be okay with it.

I definitely wouldn't want her to hang around anyone with the "I'm gay but I constantly glance at your girlfriends breasts" kinda vibe or the "I'm a straight guy that just so happens to be hot as shit but don't worry, I won't steal your girl" kinda vibe. Or even the "I know I have anger issues & pretended like I was gonna punch her, but when you're not around, I'll definitely not punch her" kinda vibe.

[Man-O-Metal]

I don't have a problem with it. I hang out with my female friends allllllll the time. And I look at them all the same way. Like they're my sisters. And that's how I truly feel towards them. Growing up as an only child, your closest friends become a part of your family.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, unless I am specifically excluded. If I have the option of joining them, then I am okay.

[DoctorSex]

Do you think that's fair,?
It says you're 67 years old, are you answering as a 60+ year old man dating a 60+ year old woman?

[OlderAndWiser]

@DoctorSex

1. My current girlfriend is 58. The prior girlfriend was 54.

2. My answer would have been the same 15-20 years ago. If you trust your partner, you should ACT like you trust your partner and not just try to keep them on a short leash. That is too much work and aggravation. If they take advantage of that opportunity and stray, then you habe not lost much, have you?

3. If you don't trust your partner, why are you still dating them?

4. I have had opposite sex friends and nothing of a romantic or sexual nature ever happened. Never. If you don't believe that, perhaps it is a reflection on your attitudes about the opposite sex, but it doesn't mean that everyone feels the same way.

[DoctorSex]

Are you aware though that the gentleman asking the question is under 24? Which means the girl is at most in her early 20's.

You're old enough to know that the human brain doesn't stop growing until 25.

So with all due respects sir, it may be wise of you to reassess your answer to the young man and factor in the age. You're giving advice as if she is a fully functioning rationale female and not one impressed by a shiny car and the latest rock band.

[OlderAndWiser]

@DoctorSex If the young lady is not sufficiently mature to appreciate the value of her companion and cannot remain loyal, I don't suggest keeping her locked in a cage until she comes to her senses.

[DoctorSex]

Right you are sir.

[loveslongnails]

Can she? Try and stop her. She'll be gone before you know what hit you. If you don't trust your girlfriend alone with other men, and you have good reason to, you shouldn't be dating her. If you wouldn't trust your girlfriend with male friends even if she's NEVER given you reason to, especially if they're old friends, then you're the one with the problem.

[litty]

Depends on your girlfriend. Is she the type of person that is insecure and who craves attention? If so, it's going to lead to a lot of drama.

Is she the type of person who will drop friends if they hit on her? Then yes, your life will be much easier.

A good partner knows how to set boundaries. Otherwise, they are more likely to cheat.

[Attis4496]

This matter should be discussed in a good relationship, otherwise problems will arise.
I've always endorsed free sex in my youth and the main rule must be: 'Don't claim each other". However, if a man commits himself to a girl/woman, especially if he would like to create a family, then the rules of engagement change dramaticly.

[bademoxy]

sorry dude , but her "just friends" bullshit doesn't wash when women never hang around when THEY'VE been "just friended" by a guy they've approached.

[Wubs3000]

I don't choose who they hang out with and I trust them so it doesn't matter. Like old and wiser said as long as they aren't hiding anything then its not any problem.

[MysteriousDarkness]

My girlfriend has a guy friend who she hangs out with once in a while. I trust them notto cross the line into wanting more. Uf he was to cross the line their friendship is over. If she crosses the line or doesn't stop him the relationship is over.

[Zeus_66]

My wife has male friends. And they sometimes hang out alone. Doesn't bother me. Never has and never will.

[kastra]

Be wary 👀... Jk, That's good bearing in mind she's your wife and youve probably had a lot of time to gain that level of trust.

[Zeus_66]

Been married 20 years. They've been friends since childhood. Not an issue. Besides, even if for some reason I didn't trust her, I'm not a jealous person. She is the one who has to live with her convictions, no matter what.

[Chazmatazz269]

Depends on the guy. I gotta meet him and watch them interact periodically. If she insists on keeping any friend a secret or separate, i’m out.

[Avicenna]

No, a woman who is in a relationship should not do that. It's OK to hang out with them if her man is there.