So, I met this guy on a dating app. We got to know each other over the course of about a month. He constantly messaged me on his phone throughout the day, we met up a few times, etc. It was his idea to take everything really slow, which the graysexual in me was okay with. I was never pressured into sleeping with him, and one point we talked about just staying friends.
He had told me that he had an ex that he had been in a relationship with for several years, and he was just starting to date again. He said that it fell apart, because they had been away from each other for several years at a time, including him moving in with his parents during school. Because of that, he told me, they weren't sexually attracted anymore, therefore, now they are just friends.
So, the other day, he told me he was having a bad day, because he had missed out on so much of life, didn't have any friends, etc. He said the fact that he married early hadn't helped in life. I said, "hold up, you were married?" So, he tells me, he was dating a woman in another country online starting in high school. He joined the military and went to her country and married her, after two days of seeing her in person. He was married by age 20.
He told me he was still married to her, due to insurance reasons. That she visited him once every three weeks, and he texted her on the phone all the time. He said that they agreed to divorce once one of them was in a serious relationship. He said that he wanted any prospective partner to meet her, because she is his friend.
He later said that he didn't get along with his family, which was different than what he had told me originally. I also did the math, and according to what he told me, he would have started dating his wife as a freshman in high school.
Nothing ever felt off before this, and I feel all kinds of icky about this whole thing. Beyond feeling like he was trying to make me a mistress. It feels scammy. What's going on here?
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Damn... one can't make this Strange up. Sell it to Hallmark Channel immediately !!!
Right. I was thinking about getting on Maury.
I think you will need to bring the "X-Wife" with and then let Dr. Phil and Maury bid for Appearance. ;-)
You know what? When you put it that way, I have a lot of power in this situation!
Dump him. Block him. Dude is Married and it Sounds Real Complicated and Far Fetched. xx
That shit is just too weird.