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I think dating apps have desensitised us, people are no longer treated with kindness/fairness.

When you're dating someone you can sure as hell expect them to be seeing 2-5 other girls/guys until your 'exclusive'.

I find that quiet silly, if you are interested in me and i am into you, why the need to see other people. It's like you're not even trying to form a connection. The term 'don't put all your eggs in one basket' is so annoying. No ones telling you to marry this person, they don't have to be the be all and end all of your life.

But I think it's just respectful (cant even use the term common courtesy) to date one person at a time, rather than seeing multiple people until you decide to be exclusive with one.

In a generation that has been nurtured to compete and not 'miss out', I think everyone is so set on not limiting their so called 'options'. We forget that we are dealing with people, and giving your full attention to ONE potential partner, does not limit your options from meeting 'the one'. If anything you're giving yourself a wholehearted opportunity to see if they are the right person for you. Just give people a chance to show who they really are.

In today's generation
- Girls: 'Dave didn't compliment my outfit, Nick and John did, goodbye Dave'.

- Guys: 'Louise laughs at my jokes, but Amy and Gemma look prettier laughing, C yaa Lou'

It's become ridiculous that a guy gets shocked when I say his the only person I'm seeing right now, as if I am Virgin Mary in disguise.

Maybe i'm just a boring old fart, born in the wrong generation who should shut up. But i'm sick of this emphasis on 'exclusivity'; declaring it has become as significant as proposing to a partner.


So what are your opinions?

There are 2 in particular that have remained family friends. I do not expect my brothers to stop associating with someone just because we didn't work out. Besides there was no "serious" feelings envolved either time. We just weren't a match.

My brother-in-law is a local musician and these guys date other girls now and take them to his shows and even come to Christmas and Thanksgiving at our house. I don't have a lot of dealings with them, but I am not rude when I see them, and I do not go out of my way to avoid them. I'm just indifferent.
I've been dating my new boyfriend for a couple of years and he is pretty jealous anyway. But just recently he learned that I have went on dates with these guys before now my life is extraordinarily boring and lonely. We are a pretty close family. Now he doesn't want to go to holidays or family gatherings with us anymore and gets furious if I do. I can no longer go to my brother-in-laws shows. But the worst thing is how he accuses me of keeping them around on purpose, so i will have someone on the backburner, incase I get mad at him. That hurts a lot because it shows me that he really doesn't know who I am after all this time. Plus I am sad that HE feels like I would do that.
He has an exwife and child that I may always have to deal with, but I accept that... even though he talks to her regularly AND I even found out Later that had slept with her a couple times when we were first together. If I DO say anything about it, he tells me stop bringing up the past. I don't think It is fair that I'm willing to deal with that but he thinks I should have to cut off my family or give them an ultimatum to cut their friends off or I can't associate with them anymore.. even on holidays. I love him but I am getting so sad. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. What should I do?