I started dating my current boyfriend when I was 17 and he was 23. 6 years later, I am 23 and he's 29.. after the first year my family and I moved out of the state we lived in and I wanted to leave my boyfriend behind but he ended up moving in with us a couple months after we did. Ever since the move, he has constantly played video games and drinks almost a whole 12 pack of beer a day... Our relationship really isn't all that great. It consists of me asking him to do stuff with me or me and my family and he always says no and keeps playing video games. I come home from work and relax around the house and watch TV and he sits 5 feet away playing video games and drinking and barely even speaks to me. last year I had, had enough of the boring and unsatisfing life we lead and started talking to someone online, he found out and moved out of the house I live in with my parents (for now). He stalked the guy I was talking to and completely ruined everything. He was drinking a lot more than before after we had broken up and would call me for rides home from friends, I felt bad for him because technically he moved to this new state for me. But one night I picked him up and brought him to his apartment, he was acting all suicidal so I was trying to be nice. He called and texted me none stop ever since he moved out and I even blocked his number but the blocking app I use, I still received everything. He told me he would help me with a legal problem I am still currently dealing with and said if I let him move back in, he would help. Well he moved back in and hasn't helped me at all. He went right back to doing the same old shit and I'm still so sick of it. He basically won't let me break up with him and even if I try, he would still have to move out again which he probably wouldn't do. I really don't want it to be a big legal mess. Can anyone give me any advice about this on what I can do? I haven't been happy for a long time and I want to be with someone who isn't anything like
Most Helpful Guy
ok certainly there are other details that are not mentioned here, but i will talk from what you said.
first of, after 6 years, you just wanted to let him behind? just like that? well i hope it is not just like that. if you could easily let go off someone, that other person doesn't have to do the same. he couldn't. he left whatever he had and came with you and according to what you said, he only started doing those things after moving out, right? why don't you talk to him instead of giving him instructions? may be he has some kind of deep problem; yeah people can get childish sometimes. he wants you, ok? and appreciate this. i am not saying that you have to accept what he is doing i am just saying try to kniw what's in his head. if you dont want to help him as boyfriend, do it for a human. no judging and it's your life and you dont have to be in someone's debt, just help and care are better than leave.0
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Most Helpful Girl
look up the laws in your state, they are more helpful in understanding the best way to kick him out. don't block his number change yours. its not right to string him along and for him to creep you.
if he wants to go home help him by buying a ticket or something, but get him out of your life.
like someone said he maybe dealing with a lot, and that maybe true. if you want to see if things could work out, talk with him about counseling or something and see if he will get help. if he doesn't want to help himself, or work on your relationship, walk away.
six years is a long time, and he moved for you, but at the end of the day your not his mother, nor his family. you've lost interest in him as you are looking elsewhere, and if you are ready to cut ties and move on, then go for it.0